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Ziele & Erfolg: Wie lerne ich geduldiger zu sein?

Das Thema Geduld ist eine sehr emotionale Sache. Warum? Weil es den meisten Menschen sehr schwer fällt Geduld aufzubringen. Wer damit aufgewachsen ist, dass er quasi alle Wünsche erfüllt bekommt, nur wenn er sie äußert, der wird sich noch schwerer damit tun, sich in Geduld zu üben.

Als Kind hast du Träume. Du stellst dir eine Zukunft vor, wie kein anderer. Du bist voller Tatendrang und Elan. Und irgendwann erlebst du Enttäuschungen, wirst ausgebremst, hörst auf zu spielen, weil es unangebracht erscheint, weil du ja jetzt groß bist und dich erwachsen verhalten sollst.

Wie viele Menschen suchen nach einem Wundermittel für ihre Probleme? Es soll alles ganz schnell gehen.

Du bist übergewichtig? Kein Problem, wenn du Pille xy einnimmst, hast du in 7 Wochen soundsoviel Kilo weniger auf der Waage. So das Werbeversprechen.jogging-2343558_1920.jpg

Viele Musiker wollen am liebsten direkt einen Nr. 1 Hit landen. Das ist ihr Ziel. Und wenn Sie es dann erreichen, halten nur die wenigsten durch, weiter Hitmaterial zu produzieren. Wie viele Ein-Hit-Wunder kennen wir? Unzählige.

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Spitzensportler werden nicht von einem Tag auf den anderen zum Weltmeister oder tragen eine Olympiamedaille. Es ist harte Arbeit und erfordert Disziplin und Geduld soweit zu kommen und dann sein Niveau zu halten.

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Jemand wie Steve Jobs hat nicht von einem Tag auf den anderen das Iphone oder das Ipad auf den Markt gebracht. Es bedarf unheimlich viel Fein-Gespür, Geduld und Finesse solch ein High-Technologie Produkt zu entwickeln und so zu etablieren, dass es erfolgreich wird und bleibt. Hätte er kurzfristig gedacht, wäre solch ein Produkt niemals entstanden.apple-758333_1920.jpg

Self-Made-Millionäre werden oft belächelt. Der Erfolg der Geissens mag für den ein oder anderen nicht nachvollziehbar sein. Dass das Ehepaar zu Anfangs ihrer Karriere allerdings geschuftet hat ohne Ende und immer an Ihren Traum geglaubt hat und geduldig war, wird meistens einfach ausgeblendet, wenn man erstmal sieht, was die beiden alles an Vermögen, Häusern und Autos aufgebaut haben.

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Du wirst nicht einfach über Nacht reich. Es sei denn du erbst eine große Summe oder gewinnst im Lotto. Und warum können diese Leute nur selten ihr Vermögen vermehren, sondern haben es nach kurzer Zeit einfach verprasst? Weil Sie nicht geduldig sind und an Nachhaltigkeit denken. Sie denken, jetzt, wo Sie mehr Geld haben, können Sie sich was gönnen und mehr leisten, anstatt ihr Geld sinnvoll zu investieren, damit es sich quasi wie von selbst vermehrt.

Dieser Blogbeitrag soll dich dazu inspirieren, dich mit deiner Geduld auseinanderzusetzen. Ich bin ein sehr ungeduldiger Mensch. Ich bin sehr ehrgeizig und zielstrebig und ich mag es auch nicht, wenn ich nicht die Dinge, die ich gerne hätte sofort bekomme. Das liegt in der Natur des Menschen. Wir haben nun einmal alle Wünsche, die wir erfüllt bekommen möchten:

  1. Es ist völlig egal, ob du gerade an deiner Karriere feilst, oder an deiner Ausstrahlung.
  2. Es spielt keine Rolle, ob deine Wünsche materiell sind oder nicht.
  3. Es ist nicht von Bedeutung, was andere zu deinen Wünschen sagen oder denken.

Geduld kann man erlernen.

Wie? Ja, das kommt ein wenig auf deine Persönlichkeit an.

Grundsätzlich kannst du allerdings wesentlich geduldiger werden, wenn du:

  • dir eingestehst, dass dein Ziel große Bedeutung für dich hat und das WARUM für dich klärst.
  • wenn du dein WARUM verstanden hast, dann weißt du Bescheid, wo der Hase langlaufen muss. Du wirst fokussierter und kannst dich deinem Ziel mit bewussten Schritten nähern
  • dein Ziel in einzelne Etappen aufteilst, damit du Zwischenerfolge feiern kannst. (Bsp. Wenn eine Dame gerne 4 Kleidergrößen abspecken möchte, sollte sie nicht von Gr. 46 auf Gr. 38 springen, sondern sich bei jedem einzelnen Schritt: Gr.44-42-40-38 ein chices Outfit gönnen oder ein neues Sportgerät (einen Yogakurs) oder irgendetwas, was sie mental bei ihrem Prozess unterstützt, also gewiss keine Belohnung a la Sahnetörtchen oder einer XXL-Packung Chips ;O)
  • lernst mit Ungewöhnlichem, ungewöhnlich umzugehen: Wenn etwas passiert, dass deinen Zielweg erschwert, dann gib nicht auf, sondern nehme die Herausforderung an, Dinge anders anzupacken und über dich hinauszuwachsen.
  • dich täglich neu motivierst: 10 Minuten optimistisch in die Zukunft blicken, Motivationssprüche lesen, Videos von Leuten konsumieren, die dich dabei unterstützen an dich selbst zu glauben. Was auch immer dich motiviert! Bleib am Ball und finde eine Routine, die dich voranbringt.
  • an deiner Persönlichkeit arbeitest: Werde dir über deine Stärken und Schwächen bewusst. Wenn du zum Beispiel weißt, dass bei dir sehr schnell der Geduldsfaden reißt, dann frage dich mal warum. Welche Vorbilder hattest du als Kind im Hinblick auf Geduld? Oftmals leben einem die Eltern und Verwandten etwas vor und man adaptiert deren Verhaltensweisen und Weltansichten ohne es groß zu hinterfragen. Das solltest du aber tun!
  • linear denkst und handelst! Stelle dir eine Tabelle vor. Mit einer Linie, die schräg von links unten nach rechts oben verläuft. Stück für Stück steigerst du deine Leistung. Du wirst kreativer, innovativer, lernst dazu. Entwickelst Durchhaltevermögen und entfaltest dein Potential. Der Weg ist das Ziel, sagt man so schön. Und an diesem Spruch ist viel Wahres dran. Denn wenn du vom einen Tag auf den anderen 10 kg Gewicht verlierst, aber deine Ernährungsgewohnheiten und deinen Aktivitätsmodus nicht anpasst, dann hast du die 10 Kg und noch viele mehr ganz schnell wieder auf den Hüften.
  • dir eine Treppe vorstellst, vor der du stehst. Mit vielen Stufen. Ganz oben ist dein Ziel, dein Herzenswunsch. Du musst aber erstmal alle einzelnen Stufen erklimmen, bevor du das Ziel erreichst. Wenn du dir vorstellst, dass du jeden Tag eine Stufe mit Leichtigkeit nehmen kannst, dann wird dich das wesentlich ruhiger stimmen und außerdem motivieren Dinge anzupacken, die dich deinem Ziel näher bringen.
  • dankbar bist, für das was du hast. Unser Konsumverhalten und unsere Standards verleiten uns oft zu Undankbarkeit. Warum? Weil es immer etwas neues gibt, dass vielleicht besser ist oder unsere Aufmerksamkeit auf sich zieht. Obwohl wir den Schrank voll mit Klamotten haben, möchten wir uns noch etwas neues kaufen, haben konkrete Vorstellungen von dem was uns gefällt. Obwohl unsere Kinder die Zimmer voller Spielsachen haben, haben sie unendlich viele Wünsche, sobald sie Werbung, Kataloge oder Spielzeug in Geschäften sehen. Setze dich einfach zwischendurch hin und lasse Revue passieren, was du alles schon erreicht hast und welche Geschenke dir das Leben bereits gemacht hat. Dankbarkeit erweitert nicht nur deinen Horizont, sondern hilft dir dein Mindset auf eine positive Ebene zuzusteuern.
  • die Meinung der anderen außen vor lässt. Xy fährt einen fetten Porsche? Y hat ein tolles Haus mit Pool und Sauna, D fährt andauernd in teure Luxuxhotels? Na und? Fokussiere dich nicht auf andere, sondern auf deine eigenen Ziele. Schaue, was für dich wichtig ist, welche Schritte sind notwendig, damit du deine Ziele erfolgreich bewältigst? Höre auf dich mit anderen zu vergleichen. Du bist einzigartig. Und höre auf, die Meinung von anderen über deine innere Stimme zu stellen. Niemand anders als du selbst trifft hier die Entscheidungen. Du bist derjenige, der über sein Glück oder Unglück entscheidet. Pack die Dinge an, die dir wichtig sind.
  • aufhörst dich selbst mit Ausreden zu beruhigen: Ja, wenn das Wetter jetzt besser wäre, würde ich joggen gehen. Wenn Oma Erna mir nicht die Schokolade geschenkt hätte, hätte ich sie auch nicht verdrückt. Wenn ich mehr Zeit gehabt hätte, dann wäre ich ein besserer Musiker geworden. Wenn die anderen an mich glauben würden, dann wäre ich viel geduldiger und könnte alles erreichen. Falsch. Höre auf, die Schuld bei anderen zu suchen. Es liegt alles nur an dir. Du kannst entscheiden, dass du bei Regen mit Funktionskleidung joggen gehst. Du kannst Oma Ernas Schokolade einfach jemand anderem geben oder von mir aus einfrieren. Du kannst dir die Zeit nehmen, das Instrument zu erlernen, anstatt vor der Glotze zu hängen und über Zeitmangel zu klagen. Menschen, die etwas erreichen möchten nutzen ihre Zeit sinnvoll. Und du musst erstmal an dich selbst glauben, bevor es andere tun. Die halten dir nur den Spiegel vor. Solange du nicht an dich glaubst, wirst du auch nicht die Geduld aufbringen können, deine Ziele zu verfolgen. Keine Ausreden mehr. Widme dich deinen Themen, deinen Zielen, deinen Stärken, deinen Schwächen. Kreiere einen Masterplan für dich selbst und halte dich grob dran.
  • es dir so schön wie möglich machst: Zum Beispiel wenn du abnehmen willst und nur noch Haferschleim oder Kohlsuppe ist, dann wird deine Geduld bald am Ende sein. Wenn du allerdings kreativ, gesund kochst mit vielen Vitaminen und farbenfroh, dann wird sich das Mood-Food auch auf deine Laune auswirken. Sorge für einen Weg, der dir Spaß macht, einen ohne viele Schlaglöcher uns Steine, sondern wie ein bei Super-Mario Spiel, wo du springen darfst, und Früchte erntest, Bonuspunkte erhälst und fliegen darfst. Du musst dich immer wieder mit kleinen Etappenzielen motivieren. Und wenn du die ersten Erfolge feierst und dich an das Glücksgefühl gewöhnst, dann weißt du dass du auf dem richtigen Weg bist!
  • dich davon überzeugen lassen kannst, dass es besser ist langfristig zu denken, als auf kurze Erfolge zu pochen, die sich dann einfach schnell in Luft auflösen.

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Was hilft dir dabei, geduldiger zu werden? Fühlst du dich motiviert? Ich hoffe ja, dann habe ich mein Ziel erreicht.

 

Be aware of who you want to be

In times of social media and unlimited access to viral knowledge it is very important to be aware about yourself. In the last weeks I recognized some people who I follow on Instagram (@nidellinger is my account if you want to check it out) who have taken a social media fast. The results of their fast were pretty the same.

Kimmy from @sheisinherapron shared her thoughts about her social media pause in her latest YouTube Video. If you don’t know her, she is living in the United States and a proud mom which shares her cleaning routine, home decor ideas, life as a mom and wife on her YouTube channel. She did speak about the fact that she did find out about her addiction to her phone while the fast.

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She realized quickly that her smartphone was like something which gives her a kind of value by scrolling down the social media feed. She was a little bit shocked about her behavior, because she checked her phone too many times a day, especially her Instagram account. That is why she felt for example bored, sad or angry. It was like an escape from the reality of her daily life ;O).

While the social media timeout she detected that her hand just was searching for her phone in order to scroll and she wanted to stop that addicted behavior immediately.

The social media time out let her feel how often she checked herself out, her body was there but her mind not present for those she loves. She recognized that her kids did not got the attention she wanted them to offer.

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Furthermore she found out that although Pinterest was a great inspiration for her so far, she was even more creative while she explored her own ideas during the social media time-out instead of just copying things and ideas of others.

Actually she found time for things she wanted to do since a long time before. Scrolling through your phone can take five minutes here, 10 minutes there and if you count the amount of time you are online— you will realize you were just busy with your phone!

By staying away from social media she stopped comparing her work to other mompreneurs and realized that her own way feels good. It made her stronger in many different areas. And grateful about what she already achieved and what is gifted to her in her life.

Kimmy’s story inspired me to write this blogpost, because she became aware of herself and her faults. And awareness is so important.

How often do you get distracted by scrolling down on your smartphone?

And did you know that it is really impolite to speak with somebody while taking your visual attention on your phone?

I love the sentence of Simon Sinek:

„When someone asks for your time and you took your phone away to speak to that person, that is real leadership!“

As a mom I am a certain kind of leader too. I take care of my own tribe ;O). And as a entrepreneur there are situations were I have certain deadlines or important tasks to do. It is very easy to get connected with my smartphone. I could allow our kids to watch lots of cartoons instead of playing with them. Then I could properly get more work done.

But it does not feel good, to be busy all day long with a smartphone for me. It feels bad if you think of the consequences of to much social media consume and using smartphones for many hours.

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  • But I don’t want it easy.
  • I want to offer them my best in order to get great results for their personal developement
  • I want them to see that they are important.
  • I want them to learn winning and loosing in life e.g. by playing boardgames or having a certain challenge
  • I want them to explore their skills and their boundaries by running and jumping outside.
  • I want them to value those things which we are gifted with
  • I want them to believe in themselves.
  • I want them to live a life according to their passions & talents

That is not build by social media consume, nor by tv or any other distraction which just seems to be the easiest way as a parent in our society. I was shocked about moms who give ipads to their children in order to fall asleep instead of reading a good-night-story and offering a hug to them. I still cannot understand why mothers hand out smartphones to toddlers in order to get them busy with that technology. And I will never understand moms who prefer to put their children in front of the tv or an ipad to eat their meals instead of sitting together as a family at one table and connect with each other.

Be aware about who you want to be, be aware about your surrounding, about those people who influence you and pay attention to your spouse in a proper way. Awareness is the key to upgrade yourself properly!

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Strong relationships are build by awareness:

  • If somebody means something to you- take care, listen and be present (full not with a sideview on your phone)
  • Be kind to people who could need some kindness because nobody offers it to them
  • Respect others even if you dont share their opinion
  • Accept differences. Nobody is perfect. It would be very boring if we would be all equal and just running around like robots.
  • Offer your help and support others who go through a hard time
  • Stop to judge other people. If you cannot offer value or a certain solution for somebody, shut up!
  • Don’t pretend something which you are not ready for. If you promise something you need to do that thing. If you can’t – don’t promise something to somebody.

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Be aware of yourself.

How would you like to be?

Which value do you want to bring in this world?

How can you realize your „vision“?

Update yourself by visualizing how you want to be seen by others: What should people say about you, if you leave a room? What do you want to be famous for? 

A stay-at-home-mom can inspire lots of others moms by her behaviour. It does not depend on your job, who you are. It is the deep inside. Your heart will connect with other people. Being aware of your skills, talents and your passion is very powerful. Once you learned to be aware about who you want to be, it is easier to focus on certain goals.

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Today I like you to motivate to take a seat for 5-10 minutes and brainstorm about yourself:

  1. How do you see yourself right now?
  2. How would you love to be?
  3. How do you want to be perceived by others?

You can redesign you ego by awareness! YOU CAN CHANGE TO THE GOOD, if you focus and lead yourself to the point you want to see yourself!

Zeitumstellung: Fünf Alltagtipps, die dir dabei helfen in der dunklen Jahreszeit bei guter Laune zu bleiben!

Die Uhr wurde wiedermal umgestellt. Angeblich soll das im nächsten Jahr nicht mehr auf uns zukommen. Allerdings ist es jetzt wieder soweit: Die Winterzeit ist diejenige, die uns nun begleitet. Einigen macht die Zeitumstellung schwer zu schaffen. Wir Menschen sind bekanntlich Gewohnheitstiere. Und wenn du immer um 16.00 Uhr deinen Kaffee trinkst, dann möchtest du ihn auch um 16.00 Uhr (sprich 15.00 Uhr Winterzeit) und nicht erst um 16.00 Uhr Winterzeit (sprich gefühlter 17.00 Uhr Uhrzeit).  Weiterlesen „Zeitumstellung: Fünf Alltagtipps, die dir dabei helfen in der dunklen Jahreszeit bei guter Laune zu bleiben!“

Pure Anger: How to deal with that emotion in a proper way!

I was inspired by myself for this blogpost. High Five. Why? Because I really got mad the last time as my husband complained about something. And I literally felt pure anger like never before. Weiterlesen „Pure Anger: How to deal with that emotion in a proper way!“

Motivational Monday: Are you able to re-evaluate a relationship?

Strong relationships are built by those people who care about. If you want good people in your life you have to focus on those who support you instead of judging you.

I was inspired by a humble woman who wrote about relationship skills and that she always had a hard time with her mother. They met each other and their get-together always did end up with the speech of her mother: „AcctuallyI regret that we met each other today. I am always so sad after meeting you.“ Usually they would not understand each other and have a verbal fight… but that woman loved her mom although both were so different. That is the reason why she thought about a solution to improve that relationship as soon as possible.

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The great idea of re-evaluating a relationship came up and she decided to give her mom another chance. Before the next meeting she embraced the progress. She told herself to just stay in the moment: no past, no judging, not trying to convince her mom about her own opinions. She focussed on having a good time with her mom and just stay calm.

Surprisingly the meeting went really great. She enjoyed the company with her mom for the first time. They spent a whole day together: they went shopping, ate dinner and watched a great movie. They never had laughed so much before.

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The daughter really improved the relationship with her mother by this meeting. She respected her for the first time with all these differences and opposite character of her own. By reading that story I felt so inspired by her course of action.

  • Why should we not give other people a second chance to be a part of our life?
  • Are we judging others because of our selective perception?
  • Do we take the speech and actions of others too personally?
  • Do we always need a confirmation of the outside to feel good? 
  • If we are able to change on a daily basis, why do we manifest a certain picture of people in our memory/mind forever? 

Unfortunately I am really bad in changing my mind about people who did not find the kind of respect towards me I assume to deserve. That is the reason why if somebody acts like a jerk towards me, that person will be strongly „game over“ for me. I am really friendly and uncomplaining, always trying to fit myself into situations with people. But if I find out that somebody is using me or unfair, then he/she has to bear with the consequences.

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Perhaps it is just a manner to protect myself of bad people and evil. Nevertheless I am believing in the fact that everybody deserves to get good attention. People are so different. Everbody is unique. And with that knowledge you can really change your mindset. Why? Because if you know that somebody is the opposite of you, it is easier to understand, that the person has another perception then yourself. Other values, different opinions, another past, a different present and another future then yours.

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Very often we are in connection with other humans, which we would not choose voluntary. For example you are working in a company. Then you have to fit yourself with the other colleagues if you don’t want to be a smug.

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Or imagine you are in a partnership with somebody. In most cases you will have contact with family & friends of your spouse too. That can be a big challenge. On other terms and conditions you could just walk away and focus on something different. In this case to look the other way is not an option for you.

Think about all those relationships, where your stomach starts to ache by just thinking of. Can you find a way to improve those relationships?

  1. Embrace the moment.
  2. Stay friendly and calm
  3. Let the other person as he/she is (no judging)
  4. Respect that another person acts different to you
  5. Be aware of your good character and stay politely
  6. Sometimes less speech is better then discussing (save your energy for the important stuff!)
  7. Focus on having a good time (be positive, supporting and low-key)
  8. If somebody offers you an execuse, you should consider to accept it.
  9. Make peace with your past.
  10. Try to bring something new into a relationship, which got kind of stucked.

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We as humans are living in communities. We are all different but we can support each other with our unique views of the world. I am always dreaming of a society which does not need envy, hate and war. Sadly it all starts with one person: ourselves.

  • If you are not able to forgive, another person will not forgive you either.
  • If you are not able to improve your character, who else should do that job for you?
  • It is your life! Be aware avout your decisions and your own faults first, before you put your finger on somebody else.

Most of the time it is a big mistake to be filled with bitterness. Perhaps the other person was not able to act different in a certain situation towards you. Why you should be bothered forever because somebody hurt you?

I know, its complicated. But if you are able to re-evaluate your relationship, you will be surprised how happier you become afterwards. At first it might look like a huge mountain you have to climb. After embracing the situation it will not feel like this anymore. You will become stronger then before, smarter and more aware of yourself and your surroundings. 

Hopefully I could inspire you today, as the woman inspired me this weekend. Which relationship should you re-evaluate? Have a great start into your new week! Use the comment-function to write your insights down.

5 Truth About How You Can Stay Calm in Stressful Situations

Actually lots of people are totally stressed out. Productivity and being unique are main issues which people of our modern society have to focus on. If you want to be successful, usually you have to invest and put all effort into the „process“ and your „projects“ in order to achieve what you are longing for. However you will easily confirm that our lifes can be full of overwhelming thoughts and pretty stressful.

With my blogpost of today I want you to offer oppurtunities which help you to stay calm in stressful situations. Hopefully you will be reminded of my words, if you find yourself somewhere stressed out!

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1.Presuppose the positive solution!

Do you really care about your stress or are you trying to ignore it? If you find yourself stressed out, then there were something before that stage which had triggered you. Limited time could be one stress factor, or high expectations of yourself or interactions with others. Whatever you have to face, believe me its just temporary.

Try to be aware of the fact that stress can deliver great results, if you stay calm. That is the reason why you are totally prepared for this… its all about your mental focus, your mindset decides about the outcome. If you focus on a solution and believe in yourself that you will create a way to get through tough times, then you will stay calm and solve every issue.

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2.Focus on deep breathing!

Imagine one of our stressful situations in the past… How did you feel? Perhaps your heartbeat went faster then usually, your muscles got tight, your face were cramped and you just felt despaired.

Normally people tend to pause breathing if they get into a mental panic situation. Scientiest will confirm to you that this „emergency reaction“ of your body is not healthy and will not find a solution to get out of that stress. Rather a proper oxygyn supply cannot be provided. That is why your brain function will not be as good as it should be.

How can you increase your brain function? By taking a deep breath in and out you will release the leck of concentration soon and feel calmy too. Why calm, please? Because deep breathing stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes a state of calmness.

Its so worthy. If you feel stressed out, try to focus on your breath. Deep in & and deep Out. Why are those yoga-experts always so relaxed and easy-going? Because they deep breath on a daily basis with focus.

You could give it a try to integrate 15-30 minutes of deep breathing in your daily schedule. After 30 days you will not think about it anymore, it becomes a routine and you will feel energetic and calm on a daily basis.

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3.Take care of your sleep habits!

That is a tricky one, because hey, who is really aware of sleeping enough? We are busy, some of us have kids, others have pets and we are busy with social media too ;O). Yes, I suppose that you as a person of our modern society are consuming media stuff too, no matter if its a movie, or a youtube video, a book, or a podcast… we are all in that.

I have a nephew and I am really proud of her, because she really focuses on her grades and her job beside the school…and she exercises too and reads lots of books, BUT she does not care about anything, if her time for sleeping is coming.

She is so secure that she does not care of visitors or anyone else, she will brush her teeth and  kindly say goodnight… in order to give her body enough power, to be active and smart again for the next day.

How often do we try to be awake until midnight? How busy are our brains with nonsense or doing stuff which is less important then recharching our brain, heart, soul and the rest of our body? You can try to get into a certain routine. It would be great if you can realize 7 hours sleep per night. Who can get 8 hours, congratulations.

People get easily stressed out, if they are tired. Toddlers also often meltdown in a temper tantrum, because they are tired and overwhelmed. Try to improve your sleeping habits. Do you sleep next to your phone? Do you assume thats a good idea? Be honest to yourself, if you find yourself scrolling on social media plattforms, then you should prefer an oldschool alarm clock next to your bed, instead of a smartphone which will hinder you from getting enough sleep.

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4. Limit your caffain intake!

Oh that is a hard one, especially for me. I usually drink black tea & coffee every day. Its proven that an active person like me will even get more active with a high affain intake.

Believe me I tested myself and did not drink coffee and black tea for two month. Firstly it was horrable, I got that bad headache and I felt like I will attack somebody because of my withdrawal.

But after 3 or 4 days, the headache went away and I slept like a newborn. It was really good to take a pause of that hamster wheel of feeling like a coffee-machine. Instead of black tea and coffee I had chosen herbal tea.

I observed myself that I was more easygoing and got relaxed, perhaps because I was so proud of being in control of my unhealthy habits.

After a while I start drinking coffee here and there. But I found out that it is a bad idea to drink caffaine if you already are stressed out. Lavender-Tea would help you more to quieten down. So how many cups of coffee do you drink? Can you replace some of them with other drinks?

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5. Be grateful!

Thank you. Try to be thankful. Be grateful for the little things. You can write your gratitute down if you like.

Some people journal daily about those things which make them feel grateful. If you are thankful for what you already have, then you are aware about yourself and your surroundings. Gratitute is the key to a happier life.

If you feel grateful, then you remember even in tough and stressful situations what you already have or did achieve. And that is the reason why you can stay calm in stressful situations. For which things are  you grateful today?

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Try to be honest to yourself. If you find the connection to your heart, you will not feel insecure anymore. Every stressful situation will be executed by you with calmness and dignity.

Its up to you… are you ready for a change? Do you think one of these points could decrease your stress level? Which is your favorite one? It would made my day to read your comment. 

Motivational Monday: 5 Hacks To Speed-Clean Your Work Space

Today I really like to motivate you to get ready and clean up. If you already are a nead freak, then congratulations to you! But usually even organized persons can feel quite overwhelmed, if they are too busy or emotional not on top! Sometimes it’s just a flu which hinders you from cleaning up a mess… and then suddenly you don’t know how to create a clean space quickly, because it went totally out of control! Learn how to tackle the mess…

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Learn how to deal with anxiety if you grew bigger

Emotions are very powerful. If you feel excellent and positive it is quite easy to establish something belonging your business and become more successful: You meet people, interact, cooperate, feel valued and can achieve magical improvement.

But what about these other emotions, which suddenly occur? The most powerful negative emotion is anxiety. Why? Because anxiety is like the hand-break of your car. It will stop the process of going forward immediately.

Anxiety is full of self-protection. Actually many people have to deal with anxiety. Therefore I thought it might be helpful to write about it and how you can deal with anxiety, in order to grew bigger.  Weiterlesen „Learn how to deal with anxiety if you grew bigger“

Commitment: Happiness and Entrepreneurship

The last couples of days I was very busy. It made me feel strange about myself. I felt productive as well as innovative, because I dealt with so many issues on one plate for a certain time.

Do you know that feeling if you are in the flaw and want to realize something and could literally spend hours and hours with realizing a certain project? Yes, I was totally into that.

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As I had a little smalltalk with my husband, abruptly he asked me: „When are you going to plug out? Didn’t you want to do sport exercises instead of sitting every single minute of your me-time in the home office?“

Oh. I suddenly became silent! Guilty! Totally right. He caught me just by one or two specific questions. Really, it hurt me, because I felt bad about the fact that I wanted to do more sports, but did not exercise right now. He definently did hit the mark.

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I am so greatful to have this guy around me who literally puts the truth into my face. I cannot ignore it then. He always helps me to find time to reconnect with myself. And he is that kind of guy who probably is saying nothing at all or just announcing an emergency case which needs a quick solution. At this point the emergency issues belonged to my overwhelmed me. He announced it and reminded me of my personal goals.

The main problem of entrepreneurship is, if that most people are plugged in all day long.

They are available with they smart-phones, have that „rings & peeps“ if an email is coming in. And because they fight for their business to be more successful, they miss to set boundaries for themselves.

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In the past I  was all day available. Customers called me even in the evening and I answered, because I just thought: Okay, one more couple will help me to achieve what I want to realize with my business.

But then, I realized I am busy all day long and my mind is cruising around all these problems of other people I need solve. After a while I felt like I am a bad mom and a horrible wife, because I got addicted to push my agency day and night. I caught myself once or twice by being careless about those people who love me. My mind was just full of thoughts and  random feelings of others. If  I was having an ipad or smartphone around  I was just searching for stuff belonging my business in order to push it further.

Workaholic? Yes. And it might be great for people to work 100 hours a week, if they are unmarried and without any other responsibility.

But if you also have high values and you are running a family with children besides that „business“, then you need to be smart and effective instead of just investing hours and hours into that „businessbaby“. If I would not have that husband and our children, I would spend a few more hours in my home office or would be traveling a lot belonging my company.

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But the reason I started that business was to realize a business which depends on my own skills and abilities and which delivers cash flow in order to realize our dreams as a family and my personal ones too. I wanted to run an online business to be present for my children and to be available as a wife too. I started with good intentions and believed in my vision of business as nobody else did, because I felt it deep inside.

I wanted to do something I am passionate about and which did not depend on somebody else favour. I wanted to have a business which is not just at one place. Being flexible and not limited to a certain location was the most incredible thing about it.

I could work by traveling around the world as well as moving my home, because I just would need WLAN and my technical equipment and beside this also all of my heart.

I always pushed my agency in order to realize a better future for us & our children and to give them opportunities and to teach them high values. If I am an idol for my children, a lovely mother and a person who helps others, they hopefully will recognize how important it is to share thoughts and feelings with other humans and be caring and kind to people.

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It was very important to set boundaries, rules and a certain plan for me in order to run a successful business but still being a happy person with a private life, hobbies and a family so far.

Now my time for phonecalls is limited for monday-thursday between 9-11 am. If costumers call at other times I will not answer my phone anymore. If they are busy at my phonetime, they can write an email and ask me to call them back (agentur.herzensfreude@yahoo.de). That’s different. How many times I got distracted, because I was doing certain things and then somebody calls me with a bunch of questions?

In the past I learned a lot belonging business in general. Entrepreneurs often think, that they need to be available everytime. Most of them assume: „If I am not available for a specific costumer, he/she could contact another entrepeneur instead of me!“

Perhaps that can happen, of course. But for me that is just a bad thought. You can change your mindset about that. If you are an expert and you are the best, people will call you even if you are just available once a month.

Why there are so many restaurants out there, where people truly reservate a couple of weeks before in order to get a desk with food in that place? Because the restaurant is a special place and people love to go somewhere they feel important, even if they have to wait to get an appointment, or just because of that!

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So if you are an expert and doing your job well, people will be thankful to reach you and not consist on that being available everytime thing!

There are so many musicians out there and their fans are begging for releasing the new album, but they just constantly wait. Do all these fans reject their music? No, they are longing for hearing something new of their favorite band and still stay tuned.

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So I literally pluged off and set a new plan for my new working schedule. I really felt guilty, because I know I am really passionate about my job as a wedding visionary and relationship expert. Honestly I firstly felt like I would do something wrong, because if I invest more time in my business I will also earn the fruits of my dedication.

But I need to be happy too. If I am just stressed out, I will not be that person who can help others to solve their problems nor think positive for them, if they nearly turn apart. I truly recommend everybody, especially to people who run a business: Find the time for a certain hobby, some kind of activity which melts all your sorrow and creates happiness instead!

For me its having a great, intensive workout. I feel bad about the fact that I allthough I really love it, did not find the time for it for a while.

But this blogarticle is a personal commitment to myself and a great reminder if I will jump into that workaholic hamsterwheel again. Put yourself first. Find time for the things you really love and you will be lucky and more productive then before!

Because if you do something you love and then plug in to work, your ability to create something new and be productive is amazing und you will become unstoppable.

So let’s plug off and get those sportshoes on! ;O)

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What is your opinion about happiness if you running an own business? Do you find time for those things which bring joy to you? If so, which things do you love? Are you feeling more productive if you increase your happiness level on a regular basis?

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