We all fall in love. There are a few people and the amount of that people is growing constantly, that find themselve attracted to a person of another country or culture.
There are a lot of prejudices cruising around and heartpeople are often suffering with the questions they get asked by others about their binational relationship.
- Why do you prefer her?
- Do you really think that relationship will last?
- Don’t you have a lot of differences with each other right from the start?
- How do you want to deal with that partnership in the future? Isn’t its better to quit it soon?
- Don’t you think the person just uses you and your feelings in order to get a residence permission?
I admit those questions sound weird, but believe me most binational couples are asked that questions by their closest surrounding, i.e. family and friends & colleagues. And there are a lot of people outside, who just love to interfere into your lovetape.
It is not about black & white, yellow & white, muslim & non-muslim, oriental & western.
Its all about the case, that you did not choose, nor prefer a person of your country, your colour-race and culture.
Imagine that we are living in a global world and that we connect with each other via worldwideweb so easily. People present themselves openly to the possibilities that networking and internationality can offer.
But in private? Connecting with foreign people? Living with a person who is totally the opposite of yourself? Sharing a life with somebody who is so different? A few people cannot imagine, how you can deal with that.
But hey? Is that your problem? No, definitively not.
Your choices and your life dicisions might not fit to their goals. But it does not mean that you do wrong. On the contrary you should feel more confident in what you do. Don’t let their prejudices become your reality.
Prejudices are not the truth. They are made by humans who don’t share your values:
“Do you know what we call opinion in the absence of evidence? We call it prejudice.”
― Michael Crichton, State of Fear
You don’t need to justify yourself for the love that you feel in your heart. You should not apologize for you emotions. Its your life, means your rulings.
There are a lot of people which plan their entire life in advance and think that they will be happy forever. Their goals as a couple might be the same and their values might be similar too. Nontheless they finally need to quit their relationship because its boring or does not fulfill them anymore.
As a wedding visionary and a relationship expert I admit there is no guarantee about the success as a couple, neither if its a national relationship nor a binational one. There are some living together until forever and others which get seperated after a few time-period.
Stop apologizing yourself to others. You derserve the life you were meant to be. Live you dreams and enjoy the love which is so deep that nobody can influence it nor control it. Binational love is an intellectual challenge, because you will always try to be smarter then others and to stay on target belonging your lovetape.
I always tell my clients:” If you invest in a relationship and you don’t do ist selfishly you will be rewarded after a while. True love is not just an emotion, it’s a choice!”
If you want to put your relationship on a higher level, you should think about getting married. As a wedding planner I organize civil marriages in denmark, especially for binational couples. Feel free to contact me via Email: agentur.herzensfreude@yahoo.de