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It’s loud out there. Do you agree on that? People in Europe are busy like those hard-working bees in a beehive. Did you ever went to a public train station in Germany in a bigger township? It’s full and busy there in the morning. People run to catch their train or their subway railway… many of them are afraid to be not on time and catch their hands over their heads if the nice voice of the service person admits that the vehicle actually will be later as the timetable has promised.
A few month ago some eastern friends asked me why the life in Europe would be such complicated and stressful. And everytime I slow down, like know during the x-mas holidays I realize how full-pact our lives in Europe are and how many stress is constantly self-made by our own thoughts.
Okay we are spoiled with waterpipes who offer clean water access every time we want to have a shower or need to cook something…in eastern countries that not always a standard. We have great systems of electricity and things in general are really accessible if we need them.
But while some eastern people wonder about the fact that there is no electrical power outage in Europe many european people wonder about the amount of bills they find in their mail and how those prices of all necessary recources increase continuously day by day.
So it’s quite normal that people get stressed out about earning more money and running to the underground at 5 a.m. in order to be on time at the 9 to 5 job they do on a daily basis. It would be so beautiful to observe those people, if they would be happy with what they were doing.
Sadly that might be an idealistic picture which we hope to see. Did you ever went to a underground in a huge town on a monday? Did you ever recognize how sad, tired and demotivated are those folks out there? Do you need to watch a motiviational video before you can tackle your own tasks?
Lots of people maintain a certain attitude and hope to change their life to the good. But I promise you if you work somewhere but you don’t love what you do, then it is a waste of time. I often hear people say: Okay, but I don’t know what I should instead of that job, it gives me so much security. I don’t like to risk something. Later I will have regrets that I did quit my 9 to 5 job.
Nobody will tell you to quit that job. I will recommend to stay safe and secure until you fill good and safe with the thing you love to do…. Imagine you have that 8 hour job, which you don’t like at all, but you always go there because it feels save for you to get that constant salary at the beginning of every month. Thats okay. Don’t feel bad about it. But, and that is a huge but… every human on earth has 24 hours per day. So if you sleep 8 hours and work 8 hours, you already have 8 hours left which you can use to improve your life, YOUR LIFE… Even if you love sleeping and you usually sleep 10 hours on a daily basis you will still have a time period of 6 hours per day, which you can use to realize your dreams.
Before I started my wedding agengy after given birth to our first child I supported all of our businesses just from the backround. I really felt proud as I recognized that I don’t like to manage things from the back anymore.
My personal light was too bright for just sitting there behind the scenes and acting in a passive way waiting to see if others can do what I want them to do. I am a person who is active and being passive is not healthy for me.
As our daughter was born I realized how beautiful life can be if you do the things you love to do. For sure my job contains parts which I don’t like so much as other parts… but generally spoken I can admit: My own business is a strong pillar in my life…. it brings so much joy to my heart, while it challenges me to improve my personal skills and the service of my company day by day. It’s a great process with many options. It is like you swim in the ocean and you can see that you will be confronted with huge waves… but you love the process and the feeling of being challenged and the water which splashes right into your face. You will dive through the water and constantly grow with the obstacles you meet.
As I started my business I wrote blogposts and invested all my freetime in analysing the market and finding cooperations and so on. It was a slow process and at first I did not earn so much. I knew that my husband was observing my journey and that he often thought I am silly, because I spent so many hours in my “company baby”. But I was full of passion and did sometimes not realize how many hours I was in my home office to move forward and become successful.
If you do content-marketing, which I basically did, you will not see great results after a few days. But if you want to build a company which is sustainable and strong, you need to become an expert and offer best service and insider knowledge for your costumer. If they trust you, they will pay you for literally everything. That’s valuable marketing.
I love to compare content-marketing with the work of a farmer. If he seeds, it takes a couple of month until he can harvests fruits and veggies. And sowing is not enough, the plants need enough sunlight and water. If you build a business and start it from scratch then you really need to invest time and your heart into the whole process.
But trust me, if you do what you love to do, then you will never want to stop it, and it does not feel like working at all. It’s totally fulfilling, a game-changer for your life and will satisfy yourself in so many ways.
Probably you will not find me waiting for a train at 5 a.m. I am an early riser but I scheduled my day and my working routine as I want to. It’s in harmony with my body, mind and soul.
The reason while I smile if I enter my home office is that I really appreciate my work. I am the boss. If I mess something up I need to take the consequences for my mistakes. If I perform good and do my best and a little bit more I will get great results and amazing feedback from my costumers and they will recommend me to others.
They believe in me because they realize that I am working with all my heart. They feel it with every step I make and every word I speak. If somebody needs an advise I don’t feel shy to speak out the truth. What’s about you? Do you love what you do? Do you like to improve yourself and learn more?
The key to your happiness is to do the things you always wanted to. Traveling? Freetime? Being creative? Being unindependent? Driving a Porsche or Ferrari? Owning a house with a pool? Helping others? It does not matter what is your engine to get yourself motivated… if you have a clue of your dreams… then promise yourself for 2019 that you will work on them to realize them as soon as possible.
You can establish your own company or side business easily allthough you do that 9 to 5 job. You just need to reconnect with yourself. What is that thing I am burning for? Which things I am interested in? What is my hobby? As a child, before everybody told me what I should do…what did I really wanted to be or do? Do I want to change the world? Help others? Create things? Entertaining people? Writing? Inventing? Exploring? Ask yourself questions, like nobody every asked you before. Write your answers down and put all those little pieces of your puzzle together. I am sure you will be busy for a while if you reconnect with yourself. Deep inside you know what you would love to do. And if you finally find the key to your own heart, then it will feel secure. It will not be a risk at all.
You will be quiet, and confident and just go for it, because you follow your heart, literally. You will be honest to yourself and honest with all your fears. And you will be 100% authentic afterwards.
There will be no doubts and no execuses anymore. And after a while there will be popping up ideas, and you will be inspired by banal things and people. Perhaps you will see somebody in the train to your 9 to 5 job and that person will inspire you to accomplish something amazing belonging your dream. Hopefully….
I know I was quiet for a while. And my blogfollowers really were patient to let me publish again. I did not feel like writing at all. I also took a break of Instagram and social media, because I had too much input that I felt pretty overwhelmed. I am looking forward for 2019, and I really love to write blogarticles which inspire others and motivate my readers to optimize their lifes and relationships, so they will be happy and lucky with their journey. Our lifes are too short to just run in a hamsterwheel which does not bring any joy or change to the good. Be you, absolutly yourself. 2019 is your year, you can open new doors and find new paths, if you trust yourself and believe in yourself.
I personally do believe in you. And you should also believe in yourself and trust in your skills and talents, no matter what they are. You can also educate yourself in many ways and find out what you are burning for. You should really invest in yourself and trust in your heart. I am looking forward to 2019. As an optimist I totally trust the journey and take care that I am well prepared for every challenge!
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- If your good in what you are doing, hopefully you can earn a lot of money
- If you are successful as an entrepreneur you decide about what comes next and that is really powerful
- If you run a business successfully you define the rules about your life instead of working 8-5 for others.
- Before you leave the house kiss her and say to her that you are looking forward to meet her again
- Write a post-it which really blows her mind
- Give her a phone call in between to meetings. Hey you find time to check you Instagram account? Call her and tell her that you just asked yourself what she is doing right now
- If you need to go on a travel because of your business, ask her to take a piece of clothes of her with you. That is way you want to have her smell close to you if you need to stay overnight in a lonely hotel room
- Use Skype and other divices to get a short personal review of her day
- Ask her which issue made her sad and which issue made her happy
- Hold her hand, touch her neck, put your arm over her shoulder
- Ask her about her personal wishes
- Surprise her by coming out of your comfort zone
There are so many moments in our lifes where we feel challenged. It would be quite boring if there would not be up’s and down’s in our life’s. Monotony is the death of our personal developement. It’s really desirable to have a certain schedule and to fix to it, but if you do not come out of your comfort zone, you can not change to the good.
You might say: “Okay I am satisfied, with what I already have or which things I have achieved…!”
But I forwarn you: Your status quo means “stagnancy” could put you out of the game. For example you are working as a lawyer and you have all these clients which are totally enough for you. But do you actually deserve to work for them? Or did you help them in the past and think that they might contact you again because they are no other qualified lawyers in town?
Sorry, but you need to wake up!
- You should think about your performance
- about how you can keep those clients
- and how you can grow your range of influence.
Perhaps as a lawyer you might think that there are so many crimes and that you will have a lot of willing clients. The reality is different to your personal opinion: Those clients you already had, might consider to contact another lawyer if needed, because they heard about somebodys great reputation. Why should a client find you? What is special about you? And which extra do you offer to them? The market does not sleep while you are sitting there in your comfort zone.
The reality might alarm you, but believe me I love to share these thoughts with you in order to help you to become that person you deserve to be. By being satisfied with yourself and your surroundings there might be happen a lot of stuff which will offend you after a while.
Your girlfriend for example might not be happy with the fact that you settle back. Perhaps she does not want to attack you with words nor motivate you to do more or to invent yourself. But believe me as a partnership expert I can promise you that the worst thing for a relationship is if the woman feels bored by her spouse. No surprises, no magical moments, no adventure anymore… that sounds really boring.
Perhaps she will feel to run away or she is keeping you until she finds that person who will deliver those things to her, which you are not able to offer anymore.
- Don’t settle back- instead of this go forward!
- Stay hungry!
- Stay focussed!
- Stay interested!
- Show her appreciation!
- Surprise her!
- Be kind!
- Create magical moments!
- Help her to improve herself as well!
- Share memorable adventures with her!
- Speak about the future, her ideas and your own visions
- Be out of control!
In every part of your life it is necessary to reflect and to investigate if you can improve your performance.
- If you want to run a marathon you will practise for it right?
- If you want that girl you will fight for her, yes you will!
- If you want that working project, then you will find a way to show your ability to deserve it.
So why do we rest on our laurels afterwards?
If you are sleeping you are resting. I accept this. And if you are awake you should integrate a bunch of awareness into that time-period. You are able to realize what you are dreaming of. Its all about your personal commitment, challenging yourself day by day. Self-aware-ness will help you to become that person you want to be. Take care of yourself as well as those persons you are surrounded by.
Selfawareness and challenging yourself on a daily basis will change your game forever.
Hopefully my blogpost could motivate you. I am a optimistic blogger and a wedding visionary who helps couples to get their realtionship on a higher level. I arrange civil weddings in denmark and I give advices to couples who want to invest in their partnership. If you like that kind of content you should consider to subscribe to my blog in order to never miss a blogpost of mine.
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