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Commitment: Happiness and Entrepreneurship

The last couples of days I was very busy. It made me feel strange about myself. I felt productive as well as innovative, because I dealt with so many issues on one plate for a certain time.

Do you know that feeling if you are in the flaw and want to realize something and could literally spend hours and hours with realizing a certain project? Yes, I was totally into that.


As I had a little smalltalk with my husband, abruptly he asked me: „When are you going to plug out? Didn’t you want to do sport exercises instead of sitting every single minute of your me-time in the home office?“

Oh. I suddenly became silent! Guilty! Totally right. He caught me just by one or two specific questions. Really, it hurt me, because I felt bad about the fact that I wanted to do more sports, but did not exercise right now. He definently did hit the mark.


I am so greatful to have this guy around me who literally puts the truth into my face. I cannot ignore it then. He always helps me to find time to reconnect with myself. And he is that kind of guy who probably is saying nothing at all or just announcing an emergency case which needs a quick solution. At this point the emergency issues belonged to my overwhelmed me. He announced it and reminded me of my personal goals.

The main problem of entrepreneurship is, if that most people are plugged in all day long.

They are available with they smart-phones, have that „rings & peeps“ if an email is coming in. And because they fight for their business to be more successful, they miss to set boundaries for themselves.


In the past I  was all day available. Customers called me even in the evening and I answered, because I just thought: Okay, one more couple will help me to achieve what I want to realize with my business.

But then, I realized I am busy all day long and my mind is cruising around all these problems of other people I need solve. After a while I felt like I am a bad mom and a horrible wife, because I got addicted to push my agency day and night. I caught myself once or twice by being careless about those people who love me. My mind was just full of thoughts and  random feelings of others. If  I was having an ipad or smartphone around  I was just searching for stuff belonging my business in order to push it further.

Workaholic? Yes. And it might be great for people to work 100 hours a week, if they are unmarried and without any other responsibility.

But if you also have high values and you are running a family with children besides that „business“, then you need to be smart and effective instead of just investing hours and hours into that „businessbaby“. If I would not have that husband and our children, I would spend a few more hours in my home office or would be traveling a lot belonging my company.


But the reason I started that business was to realize a business which depends on my own skills and abilities and which delivers cash flow in order to realize our dreams as a family and my personal ones too. I wanted to run an online business to be present for my children and to be available as a wife too. I started with good intentions and believed in my vision of business as nobody else did, because I felt it deep inside.

I wanted to do something I am passionate about and which did not depend on somebody else favour. I wanted to have a business which is not just at one place. Being flexible and not limited to a certain location was the most incredible thing about it.

I could work by traveling around the world as well as moving my home, because I just would need WLAN and my technical equipment and beside this also all of my heart.

I always pushed my agency in order to realize a better future for us & our children and to give them opportunities and to teach them high values. If I am an idol for my children, a lovely mother and a person who helps others, they hopefully will recognize how important it is to share thoughts and feelings with other humans and be caring and kind to people.

being kind to people

It was very important to set boundaries, rules and a certain plan for me in order to run a successful business but still being a happy person with a private life, hobbies and a family so far.

Now my time for phonecalls is limited for monday-thursday between 9-11 am. If costumers call at other times I will not answer my phone anymore. If they are busy at my phonetime, they can write an email and ask me to call them back ( That’s different. How many times I got distracted, because I was doing certain things and then somebody calls me with a bunch of questions?

In the past I learned a lot belonging business in general. Entrepreneurs often think, that they need to be available everytime. Most of them assume: „If I am not available for a specific costumer, he/she could contact another entrepeneur instead of me!“

Perhaps that can happen, of course. But for me that is just a bad thought. You can change your mindset about that. If you are an expert and you are the best, people will call you even if you are just available once a month.

Why there are so many restaurants out there, where people truly reservate a couple of weeks before in order to get a desk with food in that place? Because the restaurant is a special place and people love to go somewhere they feel important, even if they have to wait to get an appointment, or just because of that!


So if you are an expert and doing your job well, people will be thankful to reach you and not consist on that being available everytime thing!

There are so many musicians out there and their fans are begging for releasing the new album, but they just constantly wait. Do all these fans reject their music? No, they are longing for hearing something new of their favorite band and still stay tuned.


So I literally pluged off and set a new plan for my new working schedule. I really felt guilty, because I know I am really passionate about my job as a wedding visionary and relationship expert. Honestly I firstly felt like I would do something wrong, because if I invest more time in my business I will also earn the fruits of my dedication.

But I need to be happy too. If I am just stressed out, I will not be that person who can help others to solve their problems nor think positive for them, if they nearly turn apart. I truly recommend everybody, especially to people who run a business: Find the time for a certain hobby, some kind of activity which melts all your sorrow and creates happiness instead!

For me its having a great, intensive workout. I feel bad about the fact that I allthough I really love it, did not find the time for it for a while.

But this blogarticle is a personal commitment to myself and a great reminder if I will jump into that workaholic hamsterwheel again. Put yourself first. Find time for the things you really love and you will be lucky and more productive then before!

Because if you do something you love and then plug in to work, your ability to create something new and be productive is amazing und you will become unstoppable.

So let’s plug off and get those sportshoes on! ;O)


What is your opinion about happiness if you running an own business? Do you find time for those things which bring joy to you? If so, which things do you love? Are you feeling more productive if you increase your happiness level on a regular basis?

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Motivational monday: Why self-awareness and challenges are game-changing

There are so many moments in our lifes where we feel challenged. It would be quite boring if there would not be up’s and down’s in our life’s. Monotony is the death of our personal developement. It’s really desirable to have a certain schedule and to fix to it, but if you do not come out of your comfort zone, you can not change to the good.

You might say: „Okay I am satisfied, with what I already have or which things I have achieved…!“

But I forwarn you: Your status quo means „stagnancy“ could put you out of the game. For example you are working as a lawyer and you have all these clients which are totally enough for you. But do you actually deserve to work for them? Or did you help them in the past and think that they might contact you again because they are no other qualified lawyers in town?

laywer at work

Sorry, but you need to wake up!

  • You should think about your performance
  • about how you can keep those clients
  • and how you can grow your range of influence.

Perhaps as a lawyer you might think that there are so many crimes and that you will have a lot of willing clients. The reality is different to your personal opinion: Those clients you already had, might consider to contact another lawyer if needed, because they heard about somebodys great reputation. Why should a client find you? What is special about you? And which extra do you offer to them? The market does not sleep while you are sitting there in your comfort zone.


The reality might alarm you, but believe me I love to share these thoughts with you in order to help you to become that person you deserve to be. By being satisfied with yourself and your surroundings there might be happen a lot of stuff which will offend you after a while.


Your girlfriend for example might not be happy with the fact that you settle back. Perhaps she does not want to attack you with words nor motivate you to do more or to invent yourself. But believe me as a partnership expert I can promise you that the worst thing for a relationship is if the woman feels bored by her spouse. No surprises, no magical moments, no adventure anymore… that sounds really boring.

Perhaps she will feel to run away or she is keeping you until she finds that person who will deliver those things to her, which you are not able to offer anymore.


  • Don’t settle back- instead of this go forward!
  • Stay hungry!
  • Stay focussed!
  • Stay interested!
  • Show her appreciation!
  • Surprise her!
  • Be kind!
  • Create magical moments!
  • Help her to improve herself as well!
  • Share memorable adventures with her!
  • Speak about the future, her ideas  and your own visions
  • Be out of control!

be that person you would love to love

In every part of your life it is necessary to reflect and to investigate if you can improve your performance.

  • If you want to run a marathon you will practise for it right?
  • If you want that girl you will fight for her, yes you will!
  • If you want that working project, then you will find a way to show your ability to deserve it.

So why do we rest on our laurels afterwards?


If you are sleeping you are resting. I accept this. And if you are awake you should integrate a bunch of awareness into that time-period. You are able to realize what you are dreaming of. Its all about your personal commitment, challenging yourself day by day. Self-aware-ness will help you to become that person you want to be. Take care of yourself as well as those persons you are surrounded by.

Selfawareness and challenging yourself on a daily basis will change your game forever.

Hopefully my blogpost could motivate you. I am a optimistic blogger and a wedding visionary who helps couples to get their realtionship on a higher level. I arrange civil weddings in denmark and I give advices to couples who want to invest in their partnership. If you like that kind of content you should consider to subscribe to my blog in order to never miss a blogpost of mine.

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