The last days while I have connected with other heartpeople I finally realized that a lot of people of our society are blinded by superficialities. I recognized that there are some persons who threat others better if they think those persons are kind of famous or wealthy. It might seem quite naive to expect others to see humans as deep as they really are. But as a child I thought that everybody else feels the deep inside of their conversation partners too. As an adult I admit, most of the crowd are not emphatic.
There is a big amount of people who try to achieve a successful life. They are thirsty. But do they really know what being famous means? Success can be defined in different kind of ways. For example a person wants to live in a villa with a swimming-pool. Another person just want to be free of working eight to five, for the third person success means to live his or her dreams, for example by traveling around the world. Its quite weird to write about it. But this is neccessary to point out that people are so different and their dreams of success too.
I really feel guilty sometimes, that my attitute towards a lot of things is so different of that of the crowd. I don’t respect or threat people right, because they are wealthy or famous. At the opposite if somebody appears very perfect in front of me, I find that failure inside this person very quickly. It is not a character trait, to be rich or a famous person. In my opinion a poor person who has great values and stands firm whatever people say, earns to be recognized and loved too. I never prefer people because of their clothes, money or status. The character traits as well as the habits seem more important for me.
I hope that others can see the beauty of some quiet people too. Beauty is another part of our modern society. On social media, we post our beautiful faces, our happy children and our well arranged food. But is that our reality or just an escape of our life in general? Do we really want to live that perfection? Do we really need all these filters we are using on a daily basis? Would you also put a picture of one of your untidy rooms, and share that with your social friends?
In my family we have that genetic thing with those dark eye shadows. Even if I am rested and relaxed I have two eye rings. In our perfect world I should put concealer on those eye rings in order to look fresh, beautiful and not tired.
But in reality I don’t like to use concealer on a daily basis. My skin is sensitive and feels bad with that. It does not feel right. It’s like putting on a mask to hide my real me. Okay you might think that it will look better and then make me feel better too…so it would be a winwin situation. Being imperfect and just me, even if I have those shadows under my eyes, seems authentic to me.
I love those people around me and I really like their flaws. The mistakes and small quirks of others make them touchable and lovable for me. If somebody feels embarrassed that is way he/she does not fit into a certain pattern. In my opinion our flaws define ourselves. That quirks can help us to connect with others who does not prefer being superficial. In the last couples of years I got grounded and I realized that helping others to threat themself with respect and love is one of my skills.
Hopefully you learn to love yourself too. Until you are not respecting yourself and not realizing your great value, you will not be able to have a successful life nor a happy relationship. People change. You can change to the good. You should not think that this is the end. Its the beginning of a great opportunity, if you take care of yourself, your values and your purpose.
As an european woman, converted to islam, I am always building bridges between different people, different cultures and different countries. I always want to show others, that the way of speaking with others can change ourselves to the good.
If I am at the supermarket checkout and I see a person who has just a little bit of stuff holding in his arms, it is so easy to do that person a favor by saying: „Oh, please go first!“ It will take a few minutes but „hey that person deserves your attention!“
Being nice to others starts with being nice to yourself too. If you see somebody has a bad time you can offer your help. If you realize that a person is in need of something you can decide to organize it for that human being. Hopefully money and fame will not change heartpeople. I recommend to stay down-to earth and just to be honest to yourself. If you need to have a rest– lay down and try to recharge your batteries. If you feel depressed, ask yourself why you got there and how you can fix that. Remember the life of everybody is full of ups and downs. Enjoy your life as much as you can.
How do you think about fame, wealth and superficiality? Do you think people can have a deep conversation allthough they are sorrounded by superficial people?
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