I love to share this great article with you, because I am personally a HSP and I thought that description fits perfectly. So I love you to read this and by reposting it, hopefully many people who are not high sensitive can get an impression of how it feels like in my own world :O).
Are you in your zone? Do you feel comfy right now? There are some of those dark hours in everybody’s life. But just a few people have the courage to be aware of this.
I am one of those and I often have moments in my life where I feel pretty overwhelmed. Its like you are standing in front of a volcano uncertain if the lava will break out and burn you totally or stays calm and disappears after you become clear and powerful again.
The fact that we are humans with feelings might not surprise you. But did you ever lose your sanity because of the lack of control? Once emotions overwhelm your body you might feel insecure or mad.
At first I thought I should not write about craziness nor how you can overcome feeling low. That is way I am afraid of the reaction others who might not feel as deeply as I feel.
I imagined that it is kind of weak to write about it. The possibility of being criticised by those who are just rational hindered me to find the right words.
But after a week of high emotional clients I decided it’s the best idea to write about insecurities and being out of control.
There was a costumer who really asked so many questions and called me a lot of times to tell me about his worries. All though in generally I am very friendly I kind of got lost in the dialogue.
I realised quite soon that the person wants to be in control of the whole process. But if you ask somebody else to organize a wedding appointment that means you book that person in order to manage and be in control instead of yourself. You don’t organize it, you let somebody organize for you.
I know he was just insecure if the documents will fit and if I can realise his wedding with the love of his life…but I felt like he wanted to get rid of all his sorrows by calling me.
I was trapped in a situation where I did not want to be. A part of me told myself: Hey Nicole, stay calm and kind, he is totally concerned and overwhelmed. Give him the space to get all all his fears out of his heart. And then there was another part inside me which told me: hey Nicole! You are a professional wedding organizer, not a psychologist! You don’t need to listen to all this no-brain-stuff. You totally got distracted because of his Q&A!
So I fought with myself. I am aware of the fact that I am not a psychologist. And I am sure that „listening“ was the right thing to do, although one part in myself felt argued and misunderstood because the bunch of fears sounded absurd to me.
I remembered a speech of Garyvee, which is really great: the best marketing strategy? CARE!
Gary is totally right. A lot of people are really lost, because they have nobody who cares nor listens deeply to their inner state.
By caring and being present you offer the other person unconditional positive regard.
At the end of the week I am happy that I listened to my heart. Finally the wedding date is organized too and the gratefulness of the costumer was awesome! He felt listened and secure, because I was present as he was concerned and I did not judge him, I just gave him that space to breath and put all that insights to the outside.
I am really sure about the fact that you improve your life if you listen to your heart, instead of listening to all the thoughts which hinder you from being smart. Perhaps you feel overwhelmed, because people don’t understand your thoughts, nor your emotions or plans. But its your life, and that means your choices.
I am far from mother Theresa, but until I die I want to help other heartpeople to listen to their heart and connect with their inner power. I am a businesswoman thats right, but what is striving me the most, is to change people to the good, to help them to feel complete. You can totally put trust into your inner voice. Don’t ignore your feelings.
A couple of days somebody told me, he admired the fact that I could write in a romantic style. Furthermore if I am interested in creating some advertising articles for his company, I would be very welcome.
I reflected about that message and I recognized how lovely that sounds, but I assume I am far away from being romantic, or writing romantically. In my opinion I am kind of disenchanted and pretty pragmatic. How do you perceive me?
Todays blogpost is stright-forward and honest as usual. I don’t like my readers to confuse with romantic phrases or with fantasy stories. My focus is always on facts combined with our emotions. The combination of the truth and the unknown, which needs to be revealed, is that knowledge which really drives me to write on my blog.
I hope, that you feel heard and respected by me as my reader. However you felt before you read my articles, I truly look forward, to help you to improve yourself and get deeper to those feelings inside yourself. I love you to feel valued and important, without being judged. Every person in this world deserves to be respected for its being.
It really matters, that you connect with yourself in order to get happier and positive on a daily basis. Life can be really full of struggle. I am always confronted with lots of problems too. People don’t know all about me. They just see that smart side of me, which helps others to get things done and to improve their game. That I by myself have a lot of issues going on in the backround, which make me nervous and need my focus, that is the other side of my life, which is okay too. Every person has problems to deal with and I just like you to know, that I also need to find solutions for my own problems too. But through all my problems I really learnt to get smarter and I am really grateful for every lesson of my life so far.
Lets speak about The 4 Truth about Partnershipgoals.
If you are in a partnership there are certain bounderies which might be unvisable.
They are unspoken rules, expectations and limitations in every relationship. These points can hinder your personal developement and influence your hapiness level as well.
The reason why I write about that is, that most people are not able to live their full potential, because they feel stopped or interrupted by the person they love. If you are living in a long-term-relationship you will automatically adapt a certain behaviour of that person you are living with. Additionally your thoughts can follow a specific pattern which is similiar to the thoughts of your spouse. Its like somebody has hacked your mind and has the ability to control you. The fact is, that you are emotionally involved and don’t want to hurt the person you share your life with nor be judged by that person, who admires you.
I really love people to connect with each other, to go deeply in their partnership and get that intense familiarity with each other. But couples need to be aware of themselves as independent persons. If I am not aware of myself and my own selective perception, I am living the life of another person or let another person decide about my life at all. And then at the end of the day, it feels surreal, because you dont live your own reality, but a life which is defined by another person.
So how can I live in harmony with my inner thoughts and rules as well as those of my spouse?
4 Truth Helpers of Partnershipgoals
1. Brainstorm on what your goals are
Man and woman can be very different. And their goals can be totally unlike, allthough they are a couple. Personal goals need to be defined by yourself. You have that goals which you want to achieve by your own. Additionally there are those goals which you love to accomplish with your spouse. Perhaps there are some expectations belonging your partner too. Write it down and speak about it. If you have different goals, you need to think and talk about possibilities to realize them. If you repress your thoughts and goals, you will feel dissatisfied after a while. It is neccessary to be aware about your purposes, in order to be real and honest to yourself. If you do not have any goals, you can drift away. If you do not focus, other people can decide about you and guide you. For some people that made be okay, but then you live anothers person truth instead of revealing your own hero.
2. Take up challenges and disagreements early on
Neglecting or ignoring problems will have bad consequences. Small issues can grow quite big after a small amount of time. If you feel uncertain about a specific topic its better to point out your insecurities instead of pretending that you win the whole game. In a partnership you can not fight alone. Partnership means that two persons connect with each other and support each other too. So if you feel stressed out, you should point that out, so misunderstandings will not grow to weird fights which are out of control. Fighting is important. Don’t fit yourself into a situation just to have „peace“. Thats not a real peace. You will feel peaceful if you are able to discuss things out and get connected again after every argument. You should not try to avoid disagreements. Every person is different and therefore misunderstandings and conflicts will appear, don’t worry.
3. Adress both partners needs
It is important to be aware of the needs of your spouse. Needs can change, and being up to date is really important in order to stay tuned and connected with each other. Sometimes its okay to put the needs of your spouse over your own needs. But that should be a special moment. If you just take care of the other person needs and your spouse does not pay attention to your own personal needs, nor takes care to fulfill your needs, then the relationship will get out of balance, which is really unhealthy. Seeing that you will be disappointed soon and cannot hold on all your defined partnershipgoals, because your spouse operates careless. So why should you care about him/her anymore?
4. Understand one anothers limitations
You should be aware of your own skills and your mindset. Furthermore you should take care of the limitations of your spouse. Some people are limited by their mindset and need to work on that, others are just limited with their skills generally. I am really convinced about the fact that understanding the flaws of the partner and the personal boundaries can bring a great impact into that relationship. You can support each other belonging partnershipgoals. The result matters. People will ask you about how you managed all this. And I strongly believe in the fact that couples can use the power of imagination to realize their goals. Sharing the process is something which creates a deeper connection. And by understanding the limitations of the spouse and the awareness of the strengths you can become a dreamteam for life.
Hopefully you enjoyed reading this. Perhaps you already are aware of all these four components, thats great. My favorite is Number 2. That is way I am a „peacemaker“. Conflicts are great to express your upset and sadness and to feel how your own acting can bother someone else. But I really prefer to live in a peaceful environment, where everybody feels listened, honoured and loved. Which truth of the four points is your favorite one?
- If your good in what you are doing, hopefully you can earn a lot of money
- If you are successful as an entrepreneur you decide about what comes next and that is really powerful
- If you run a business successfully you define the rules about your life instead of working 8-5 for others.
- Before you leave the house kiss her and say to her that you are looking forward to meet her again
- Write a post-it which really blows her mind
- Give her a phone call in between to meetings. Hey you find time to check you Instagram account? Call her and tell her that you just asked yourself what she is doing right now
- If you need to go on a travel because of your business, ask her to take a piece of clothes of her with you. That is way you want to have her smell close to you if you need to stay overnight in a lonely hotel room
- Use Skype and other divices to get a short personal review of her day
- Ask her which issue made her sad and which issue made her happy
- Hold her hand, touch her neck, put your arm over her shoulder
- Ask her about her personal wishes
- Surprise her by coming out of your comfort zone
I’d like to thank DM for nominating me to this award. I was surprised by this nomination and it is a real plus to be nominated as a blogger. It is a great honor for me that you think I could deserve this award! Thanks a lot. I try to answer all of your really amazing and creative questions. By the way the first one is my favorite one ;O).
- Acknowledge the person who nominated you and provide a link to their post.
- Add the award image.
- Answer the 10 questions asked.
- Nominate 10 bloggers.
- Ask the nominated bloggers 10 questions.
- If you meet an alien and it would ask you what a human is, what would you tell?
A human is a being which has a free mind, but just a little group of that humans uses their mind carefully and free. Human beings are full of feelings, good one and bad one and they try to socialize, but until now they did not find the key to peace. Humans claim to be smart and many are blinded by money and fame. Humans are the most time very busy, some of them act like robots, some of them try to rule the world there are living in. But a bunch of humans really does not know at all how to change to the good. Perhaps you can teach them to stay calm and positive. But perhaps they will try to attack you because the are afraid of everything which they can not control. Instead of thinking of possibilities to cooperate, they just want to claim that the world is their own and that you are not welcome at all!
- What is the most important for you?
Honesty & Kindness
- How would you like your life to be in 10 years?
I like it to be totally different. A house close to the ocean and close to the woods. A lot of sport and a bunch of activities which challenge my body, my mind and my soul. Traveling around the world. I love to live in my zone. A peaceful environment which respects others and their differences. I want to help others to be happier and grateful in their life. Love is important for me. I want to surround myself with those people who love me without condition and accept my flaws without doubt. Supporting others will be a great part of my life. But I will have a lot of time for myself to reconnect with my inner voice.
- What major change you made in your life last year?
Oh, great question. Actually I challenged myself to bring my business on a higher level. I did a lot of things which I before never had the courage to do. Last year I stopped backbiting myself. I was always criticising myself and blaming myself for circumstances I did not create by my own. I just learned to accept to live with some things I cannot control. Giving up a control panel means freedom. I am totally out of control. Nobody knows what I will do next. That’s incredible. I am more creative then before and reading and writing brought a great impact to my life.
- What would you like to do more every day?
Sports. I started exercising again. But my life is really busy and I often prefer doing sports more then laying in bed. I assume life is full of action and I should be active until I die.
- What is your motto?
Be grateful for what you already have, listen to your heart and you can achieve all the things which you were meant to be.
- What word would you use to define your past?
- What does “happiness” mean for you?
Happiness: I need to be in comfort with my senses. The view of a beautiful place, a good smell, a nice voice singing or speaking kindly, wearing clothes which are soft and being embraced by people I admire and love.
- What are you the most proud of?
Of my business. That’s my creative baby which brings so much value to other people and my heart.
- What would you like to be known for?
Being honest & using direct speech and supporting others to listen to their heart and helping them to bring their love and life on a higher level.
I nominate the following 10 bloggers for The Liebster Award:
1.DM (I know you are already nominated, but it feels good to nominate you)
Okay, lets ask the nomineses 10 questions:
- Which character trait do you admire the most if you meet people and interact with them?
- Which improvement do you want to offer to the world?
- Do you play a safe game or do you prefer to take risks in your life?
- Which activity do you need on a daily basis in order to be happy?
- Which flaw do you have and what does it provoke in your surrounding?
- Which is your biggest challenge right now?
- Which is your biggest impact right now?
- Do you feel connected with your inner child? If so, what do you do to make it happy?
- How do you define happiness for yourself? What do you need in order to feel happy?
- Imagine you could restart your life right from the beginning. Would you do everything similar then you already did?
Als weibliche Unternehmerin konnte ich in vielen Jahren meine Kompetenz unter Beweis stellen. Jeder Mensch entwickelt sich im Optimalfall immer weiter und entfaltet ungeahntes Potential. Das Thema Persönlichkeitsentwicklung ist in aller Munde. Die meisten Menschen unserer hiesigen Gesellschaft möchten sich gut vermarkten und das Beste aus sich herausholen. Die neue Generation postet täglich alle möglichen Updates ihres Privat-und Geschäftslebens online. Wir versuchen authentisch und transparent zu sein, suchen Bestätigung im Außen. Da viele meiner Kunden selbst Unternehmer sind, habe ich mir gedacht, dass ich einfach ein bisschen über die weibliche Kraft schreibe. Unternehmertum, welches auf dem weiblichen Prinzip beruht kann meines Erachtens nach das effizienteste und erfolgreichste Imperium herbeiführen. Weiterlesen „Lerne: Warum die weibliche Kraft dir mehr Erfolg bringt“
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Als Herzmensch mit Menschen zusammenzuarbeiten, die auf ihr Herz hören ist mein persönliches Ziel.
Ich gönne jeder Agentur von Herzen ihr eigenes Klientel. Mit diesem Beitrag möchte ich dir einen Einblick in meine persönliche Sichtweise geben. Je besser du jemanden kennst, um so eher kannst du demjenigen dein Vertrauen schenken. Ich hoffe, dass dir die Entscheidung leicht fällt und du die Agentur findest, die genau zu dir passt!
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Actually there are so many people working from home. Onlinebusiness-Entrepreneurs are sometimes sticking in their home office but not productive at all.
I really love my work as I often mentioned it before. I mostly start my day very early. While my kids are in kindergarten and school I try to get the main things done. Thats covers important phone calls and writing emails as well as hitting the post office in order to send urgent documents.
In the evening I usually write down all the to-do’s which need my major focus on the next day. In the morning I will run a machine of laundry, have a plan for the lunch and will also do a certain cleaning-task and after a mug of coffee I will run high-motivated to my home office. That is the real life of a working-mom, who thinks productively and creatively every single day.
I really focus on „eating the frog“, so I try to get a most important issue done first. If I realized that a big issue is handled, the other to do’s are really peanuts for me afterwards.
Sometimes I need to refocus on myself, especially after emotional talk with some costumers. Because I am so emphatic, in some cases I really need to recharge myself after some phone calls to be myself again.
I use that small hack, which I like to share with you too. My mom gave me that advice as she realized that I will be overwhelmed by other peoples feelings and problems. Hopefully that can help you too:
Imagine you have an ocean with a couple of islands. There are those which are really sad and nothing is growing there. They are like sad desert pieces stocked in the big ocean.
And there are other islands which are full of palm trees and fruits and happiness, pleasure and freedom. That is my personal island, the island full of luckiness. It is shiny and brightens my day.
Everytime I am having a phone call with somebody who feels really depressed he shows me his personal island which might be similar to the island which looks like a desert. And he is thirsty to reach my island in order to feel better.
But the most important after that call is to realize that I am the owner of my happy-island and that I can feel emphatic and compassion for that sad person but that I can come back to my own island again. Did you get that?
You need to stay on your own island–in order to help those people to let all these palm trees arise at their own islands and that they are able to create a place full of happiness and freedom on their islands too.
If you help others to solve a problem, you need to find a solution. If you feel pity for that person he/ she might feel comfortable with you, but you can not have an impact on that person.
If you focus on a solution, you can find a solution for any problem issue in life. I am sure about that. Because I got sticked in so many different situations at myself and there was no hope, really from nobody. But by believing in finding a solution I always created a method of resolution.
Positive thinking even if you feel like every single cloud in the heaven is just over your own head— hands out the key to that closed door for you.
If you want to be motivated, you need to find you „button“ which will help you to motivate you. I love to help people with kindness and optimistic thoughts. Just because of my own positive point of view I am able to work effective and with all that joy in my heart.
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