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Dark shadows! Why you should focus on your future not your past!

How do you feel today? Are you totally happy with your life? Or do you need some improvements here and there to feel better then right now? Don’t feel bad about dark shadows under your eyes, dark shadows beside your heart or seeing just black right now. Its okay. There was that Black Friday! :O) And everybody was totally in that, while I was just trying to get over my influenza, which stopped me from achieving anything.

My mind was useless, I feld like somebody had hidden a huge piece of wood on my head. Totally exhausted and weak. Yes, don’t be sursprised. You are not the only person in the world, who feels a little bit dark here and there.

There are many reasons, why we feel bad and unproductive. Why we not function as we should, why we questionaire ourselves and our surroundings over and over again… I don’t blame you for being negative. And you should not blame me for being an optimist with a dark side, nor blame yourself for who you are.

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  • Perhaps you get lost sometimes by thinking about your past.
  • Sometimes you might feel bad, because you cannot change some terms you want to change immediately.
  • Being with people who might got stucked in their lifes can stop you from being positive at all.
  • Especially feeling guilty for a disaster you are in right now will not change the game on the contrary it prevents you from solving problems because you already have put your head right into the sand!
  • Particulary assuming not deserving something, allthough you want it so much, is a big mistake you should not repeat.
  • Impatience might blind you for a lot of opportunities in your life.
  • You don’t have those people around yourself, who support you in a proper way.
  • Bad experiences taught your mind, that it does not work and will never work.

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Okay, the dark side is in everybody. Some people try to hide them, some use their dark side to get better, to improve themselves to get motivated.

Do you believe somebody takes high risks and leaves his/her comfort zone just for fun?

No! Successful people leave their comfort zone in order to achieve their goals and to frame a picture of a great future.

If you can not believe in yourself– the unkind answer sounds like: „Nobody else will believe in you!“

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If you have a dark phantasy then it can offer you a lot of creativity. Because totally thinking out of the box is a skill which not everyone is able to build. So if you see something very dark you can really shape the picture as gloomy as you can. Accordingly you might ask yourself about the opposite of that state. Is there a solution for the dark moment? Can somebody rescue you or something change that state?

The best solutions for other people problems were not created by positive thoughts and spontaniuous ideas, while everybody was happy and feeling fine.

Actually people find solutions for problems, because if they don’t they will earn less money or need to spend more time or loose their good reputation…

For example a hotel which needs to fix a pipe problem in the hotel bathroom and offers the guests a free meal in the restaurant in order to get them happy and not a bad judgement on a social media plattform later on. Good reviews of costumers are the best marketing for every company. And bad reviews are the last thing somebody wants to get, right?

Another example is a techniquel device. Why should anybody buy a device, if it does not solve a problem? A solution for  time-management, automatizing, making things easier for the user! I am sure that IT teachnician focus on solving problems while developing new products and software updates or apps.

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Do you know why I created that Youtube video where I tell people how to fill out a form in order to get married? It was a solution for a huge problem. People messed it up. They sent notice of marriage formulars to me which were a hot mess. And if I can’t read those scratchy writing, how should a registrar of a wedding office get trusted with it, right?

After having some nightmare couples which missed to write their adress right… and after a lot of calls of brides and grooms who I needed to tell the filling procedere over and over again… I decided to solve the problem: By creating a video, which shows people 1 to 1 how to handle the job. And the problem was solved, because now I just need to send the video link to the couples and they can sit down and tackle the formular within a few minutes of their time. One solutions: 3 Winners:

  1. Firstly the costumers are happy, because everything is easy explained to them and they can access the video again if they need it instead of having it generally explained on the phone.
  2. Secondly I am happy, because the couples mostly do their job good and are able to fill the form by themselves, and I did not need to spend time anymore explaining it on the phone, which I really disliked after a few times.
  3. Thirdly the registrars are happy because they can easily oversee the form and work on the cases and give me answers soon. Every bureaucrat enjoys clear writing and proper forms.

And there are some other couples who use my how to do video in order to get married with another agengy. And I am generous at this point. Its okay for me, if other people profit of my knowledge. I am sure every company has his own costumer. But inspiring people is still something I love to do.

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And you? Whats about your dark point? Are you still in that dark whole or already rising your head a little bit to see the light? I know, that you can  overthink any angle of your life. I trust you,  that your past can be a huge burden sometimes. What is about making peace with all that bad things which happened to you before? I just like you to motivate to give your future a chance.

All of the sudden you could magically detect that the past could be a book full of lectures which were written just for you. And per chance you might clarify some emotional junk inside yourself too. Make peace with people who did hurt you, make peace with yourself, if you did something wrong. Say sorry to somebody who needs your apology. Give something back to those people who helped you out as you did not expect it.

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In the wintertime people try to hide themselves inside their flats and houses and make it warm and cozy. But if you curl yourself up into a ball you will be alone with yourself and your own mindset. And that might be dangerous sometimes, if you disappear into obscurity.

And every single person in the world has good days and some bad days too. And if such a dark day appears you will see everything darker as it already is. To protect yourself from living in a bubble in the past which is just taking place in your own mind… you should try to step a feet out of your door, in order to smell the world and your own future with all these unborn ideas and opportunities…

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The darkest YOU might be more lighter then my own dark side. But I learned to find strength in all these darkness and to light a candle which brings me trough a state of darkness until there appears the real light. With my motivational posts I always motivate myself too. Thats sounds surreal, but its the dark truth.

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I love to encourage you today:

  • Please, believe in yourself!
  • Please, don’t hide your skills, nor your emotions anymore!
  • If you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, then their is a great path waiting for you.
  • Please, find joy in the little things and stay connected with your heart!
  • Instead of focussing on the past, concentrate on a great future, be aware of the present and take care of yourself and your energy!
  • create moments of joy instead moments of fear!

Do you feel inspired? Just a little bit?

The magic of love: The story of a groom

Todays blogpost is about men, real men, those kind of men who consider to get married soon. Those men who really love their spouse and want to hit the jackpot by making a real commitment.

As a wedding visionary I am organizing wedding appointments for couples which roots are from all around the world. Its really mixed. There are german couples who want an elopement wedding, which means just having a time out and a wedding alone without a big blast… there are those binational couples who are really excited to marry at special places, like at the ocean, in a lighthouse, in an airplane or elsewhere which is not standard, but a little bit extraordinary.  And of course there are those who just want to get married in a wedding office and be sure to stay together afterwards.

I am so grateful for those heartpeople who contact me in order to arrange their marriage date, which is hopefully the start of a great future for them.

I admit that I am very emotional. I am quite moody. And somebody really gave me a compliment last week about the wedding I had arranged for him and his wife. His lovestory really melted my heart, because it felt so surreal for me to hear the view of the how-we.met each other- story of the groom. I never listened to those kind of emotional speech before, except of lovemovies, which are mostly exorbitant. It has proven to me that men are really deep beings but rarely show their emotions to anybody. Thanks for trusting me! The groom, who revealed his own lovestory preferred to stay anonymous.

He told me, that he knew right from the beginning, that she is the one for him. It was love by the first sight. His emotional state was really moody as he met her, because his last relationship was badly broken. He met her at a business meeting in London. She was really smart while the whole meeting and clear with her speech. Her confidence really impressed him and he felt melted away as he observed her explaining about an technique innovation system which would increase the sales volume of his company and the other businessmen which were invited to listen to that presentation too.

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After the meeting she handed out her business card to all participator of that congress and advised them to sleep on night about her ideas in order to settle that input of information. Then she smiled at him and said: „If anybody discovers doubt or has any question, feel free to contact me via email or give me a call. I will be available today to give you the best feedback then!“ As he felt her eyes on him, he knew that there would arise a lot of questions in him very soon and his heart started beating faster.

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So after one hour in his hotel room, tackleing to check the next appointments, he decided to quit another meeting and gave her a call. He asked her, if she would be available for a talk at afternoon and if she could recommend a place in London to have a piece of cake together. At first she laughed, but then she accepted his invitation and gave him an adress of a nice place called Patisserie Valerie. I added that place to my bucket list for my future trip to London. If you are a Londoner please give me a feedback in the comment, if you can recommend that place too.

Anyway the two met and ate cake and sat together with their two mugs of coffee. And as she asked him about the reason why he invited her and about the questions which are laying on his tongue, he was totally speechless. Yes, she blowed his mind away, just by nipping at this cup of coffee and taking a deeper view into his eyes.

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Men often don’t know what to say, if they have deeper feelings inside themselves. They will not confirm that, but I am quite sure that they are afraid about an unexpected reaction of that other person who means something to them. It’s easier to stay safe, quiet and unsealed then being hurt, right? Many men love to have the control over the outcome, but if you fall in love with somebody and that very spontaniously you want to impress her, instead of saying something meaningless.

She focused on her cake and took a bite and then she mentioned that she did not expect that he would invite her. That speech finally broke the ice between them: He told her that he really was impressed by her confidence in front of all those entrepreneurs. He never sat in a congress before, where all members just were so interested and focussed. „You really did a great job today, you impressed all of those men by 1 hour of passionate speech and you made me sitting here like a stupid guy, totally speechless!“

She smiled at him and reacted grateful. „Thank you. I am sorry, but it was not easy for me. Perhaps it seemed like I did a great job, but honestly I barely enjoy to convince people about their improvement. I would love people to explore those magical tools by themselves instead of putting my finger on this or that software solution in order to let them realize that they can increase their growth very easily.“

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He wondered because to him her passionate speech while the congress was full of power. „I worked hard to reach that position in our company, but I like to create more then to present. Now I am representing our company, because they think I can perform quite good in front of others. If Eddy spoke today instead of me, I assume you would not invite him to eat cake and connect with each other. Eddy is a very smart softwarecreater, but he is quite ugly, shy and fad too. Do you know what I mean? They put me in the front, because they think the male entrepreneurs wo are invited will snag and buy our products or do sign a contract or would subscribe to a certain service of us. So I am obviously an appetizer and I don’t like that position at all.“

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„For me you are not an appetizer!“ he told her. „I did not expect that you did not enjoy the meeting, because you really acted smart, friendly and kind to all of us. So that was just your marketing technique? To get all of us on your boat? Hhhmm… so if you create all these devices, you could create a specific software which totally fits to my own company, right?“ She did nod in agreement. „So as a private person, without that commitment to your company and your boss, would you recommend me to buy a certain product of your company or would you recommend me to let you create a special product for me which I will buy exclusive from you?“

So now she was speechless. What for a surprise. „Okay, I assume you want to be loyal to your boss. But I recognized that you are smarter then your boss will ever be and the whole company you are working for. So let me give you just that option: Her is my businesscard. I will book you a flight to Germany, I will book you an exclusive appartment and I will show you Cologne and the best places to eat cake and drink coffee there. I would appreciate to meet you again and I would love to work together with you too. I need an expert in my team. And I did not expect to meet that expert in England. But today in that world of online business and globality you could work from London too. But I prefer to have you close to me, honestly. The paycheck will please you and my company is a place where creative people get the option to grow and show their talent in order to achieve great results. So what do you think about my offer?“

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„I think I need another piece of chocolate cake!“ was her laughing answer. He ordered it for her immediately and asked for more coffee too. They did not realize how much time they were sitting together. It was like the chocolate melted every shyness away. They spoke about a lot of emotional stuff and about their private lifes too. He told her about that he splitt with a girl, and she told him about the death of her mother who had died a few month ago, after her husband was injured by a car accident and died afterwards. „They loved each other so much. And after the death of my father I saw how her soul was disappearing every day a little bit more and more. Her heart was just seeking for him. She stopped eating, stopped speaking and one day as I came over to bring her some flowers, she was laying in her bed with those opened eays, her body already cold.“

As the Patisserie closed they decided to go to an art exhibition where she was invited to. She told him that the artist is the boyfriend of her little sister and that it means she is obligated to appear there even if its just takes 20 minutes to show off. So they went there and he got to know her little sister and that boyfriend of her sister too. Both reacted very positive towards him. It was already dark outside after they did leave the place full of paintings and sculptures.

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Spontaneously she gave him a hug: „Thank you for today! I really enjoyed your company and I loved eating cake with you.“ He put his mouth close to her ear and whispered:“ We can repeat that, if you say „Yes“ to me, if I give you a call next time“. Then he told her to think about the business idea overnight: „Just let it settle and if you need my advise or have any question feel free to contact me!“ He smiled at her with the same smile she gave him while the ending of the congress.

At the next morning he was sitting in the hotel lobby, while she appeared suddenly. „Coffee and cake again?“ she asked him with a huge smile.

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He confirmed and they went to the restaurant of the hotel. „Normally I should sit in our company right now and be available for those businessmen of our congress yesterday. But I told my boss that I will meet one of them and the secretary  told me where you checked in. I have questions. A bunch of questions to ask you… so she started to ask him about his favorite colour, movie, singer, hobbies… it was like two soulmates had met each other and connected so deeply that they would not be aware anymore about their surroundings.

As he realized that he needed to check out in order to get the flight back to germany, she asked him to stay one night more in London. „If you stay here, I can decide about coming with you to Germany…!“, she finally revealed. So he canceled the flight and decided to spend the whole day with her…

the story ended with a one way ticket to Germany. With an happy end and a marriage in denmark. She did quit her current employment and started to work with her soulmate. After some weeks working together and dating each other they knew that magic can happen and that the meeting in london was one of these moments were life stands still and the other people around get meaningless, because you find that person which means everything to you!

Hopefully you enjoyed reading that lovestory.

The power of love is really underestimated. I am convinced about the fact that everybody will meet his/her soulmate at least once in a life time. I love those soulmates to make a commitment. To live the life and their love to the fullest. To let them say „Yes“ to marriage and arrange appointments for those who deeply feel connected to each other.

If you want to get married in denmark soon, feel free to contact me! I will give you a feedback as soon as possible: agentur.herzensfreude@yahoo.de

5 Truth About How You Can Stay Calm in Stressful Situations

Actually lots of people are totally stressed out. Productivity and being unique are main issues which people of our modern society have to focus on. If you want to be successful, usually you have to invest and put all effort into the „process“ and your „projects“ in order to achieve what you are longing for. However you will easily confirm that our lifes can be full of overwhelming thoughts and pretty stressful.

With my blogpost of today I want you to offer oppurtunities which help you to stay calm in stressful situations. Hopefully you will be reminded of my words, if you find yourself somewhere stressed out!

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1.Presuppose the positive solution!

Do you really care about your stress or are you trying to ignore it? If you find yourself stressed out, then there were something before that stage which had triggered you. Limited time could be one stress factor, or high expectations of yourself or interactions with others. Whatever you have to face, believe me its just temporary.

Try to be aware of the fact that stress can deliver great results, if you stay calm. That is the reason why you are totally prepared for this… its all about your mental focus, your mindset decides about the outcome. If you focus on a solution and believe in yourself that you will create a way to get through tough times, then you will stay calm and solve every issue.

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2.Focus on deep breathing!

Imagine one of our stressful situations in the past… How did you feel? Perhaps your heartbeat went faster then usually, your muscles got tight, your face were cramped and you just felt despaired.

Normally people tend to pause breathing if they get into a mental panic situation. Scientiest will confirm to you that this „emergency reaction“ of your body is not healthy and will not find a solution to get out of that stress. Rather a proper oxygyn supply cannot be provided. That is why your brain function will not be as good as it should be.

How can you increase your brain function? By taking a deep breath in and out you will release the leck of concentration soon and feel calmy too. Why calm, please? Because deep breathing stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes a state of calmness.

Its so worthy. If you feel stressed out, try to focus on your breath. Deep in & and deep Out. Why are those yoga-experts always so relaxed and easy-going? Because they deep breath on a daily basis with focus.

You could give it a try to integrate 15-30 minutes of deep breathing in your daily schedule. After 30 days you will not think about it anymore, it becomes a routine and you will feel energetic and calm on a daily basis.

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3.Take care of your sleep habits!

That is a tricky one, because hey, who is really aware of sleeping enough? We are busy, some of us have kids, others have pets and we are busy with social media too ;O). Yes, I suppose that you as a person of our modern society are consuming media stuff too, no matter if its a movie, or a youtube video, a book, or a podcast… we are all in that.

I have a nephew and I am really proud of her, because she really focuses on her grades and her job beside the school…and she exercises too and reads lots of books, BUT she does not care about anything, if her time for sleeping is coming.

She is so secure that she does not care of visitors or anyone else, she will brush her teeth and  kindly say goodnight… in order to give her body enough power, to be active and smart again for the next day.

How often do we try to be awake until midnight? How busy are our brains with nonsense or doing stuff which is less important then recharching our brain, heart, soul and the rest of our body? You can try to get into a certain routine. It would be great if you can realize 7 hours sleep per night. Who can get 8 hours, congratulations.

People get easily stressed out, if they are tired. Toddlers also often meltdown in a temper tantrum, because they are tired and overwhelmed. Try to improve your sleeping habits. Do you sleep next to your phone? Do you assume thats a good idea? Be honest to yourself, if you find yourself scrolling on social media plattforms, then you should prefer an oldschool alarm clock next to your bed, instead of a smartphone which will hinder you from getting enough sleep.

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4. Limit your caffain intake!

Oh that is a hard one, especially for me. I usually drink black tea & coffee every day. Its proven that an active person like me will even get more active with a high affain intake.

Believe me I tested myself and did not drink coffee and black tea for two month. Firstly it was horrable, I got that bad headache and I felt like I will attack somebody because of my withdrawal.

But after 3 or 4 days, the headache went away and I slept like a newborn. It was really good to take a pause of that hamster wheel of feeling like a coffee-machine. Instead of black tea and coffee I had chosen herbal tea.

I observed myself that I was more easygoing and got relaxed, perhaps because I was so proud of being in control of my unhealthy habits.

After a while I start drinking coffee here and there. But I found out that it is a bad idea to drink caffaine if you already are stressed out. Lavender-Tea would help you more to quieten down. So how many cups of coffee do you drink? Can you replace some of them with other drinks?

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5. Be grateful!

Thank you. Try to be thankful. Be grateful for the little things. You can write your gratitute down if you like.

Some people journal daily about those things which make them feel grateful. If you are thankful for what you already have, then you are aware about yourself and your surroundings. Gratitute is the key to a happier life.

If you feel grateful, then you remember even in tough and stressful situations what you already have or did achieve. And that is the reason why you can stay calm in stressful situations. For which things are  you grateful today?

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Try to be honest to yourself. If you find the connection to your heart, you will not feel insecure anymore. Every stressful situation will be executed by you with calmness and dignity.

Its up to you… are you ready for a change? Do you think one of these points could decrease your stress level? Which is your favorite one? It would made my day to read your comment. 

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