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The magical power-tool: Re-connecting with yourself

It’s loud out there. Do you agree on that? People in Europe are busy like those hard-working bees in a beehive. Did you ever went to a public train station in Germany in a bigger township? It’s full and busy there in the morning. People run to catch their train or their subway railway… many of them are afraid to be not on time and catch their hands over their heads if the nice voice of the service person admits that the vehicle actually will be later as the timetable has promised.

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A few month ago some eastern friends asked me why the life in Europe would be such complicated and stressful. And everytime I slow down, like know during the x-mas holidays I realize how full-pact our lives in Europe are and how many stress is constantly self-made by our own thoughts.

Okay we are spoiled with waterpipes who offer clean water access every time we want to have a shower or need to cook something…in eastern countries that not always a standard. We have great systems of electricity and things in general are really accessible if we need them.

manipulation-1875815_1920.jpgBut while some eastern people wonder about the fact that there is no electrical power outage in Europe many european people wonder about the amount of bills they find in their mail and how those prices of all necessary recources increase continuously day by day.

So it’s quite normal that people get stressed out about earning more money and running to the underground at 5 a.m. in order to be on time at the 9 to 5 job they do on a daily basis. It would be so beautiful to observe those people, if they would be happy with what they were doing.

Sadly that might be an idealistic picture which we hope to see. Did you ever went to a underground in a huge town on a monday? Did you ever recognize how sad, tired and demotivated are those folks out there? Do you need to watch a motiviational video before you can tackle your own tasks?

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Lots of people maintain a certain attitude and hope to change their life to the good. But I promise you if you work somewhere but you don’t love what you do, then it is a waste of time. I often hear people say: Okay, but I don’t know what I should instead of that job, it gives me so much security. I don’t like to risk something. Later I will have regrets that I did quit my 9 to 5 job.

Nobody will tell you to quit that job. I will recommend to stay safe and secure until you fill good and safe with the thing you love to do…. Imagine you have that 8 hour job, which you don’t like at all, but you always go there because it feels save for you to get that constant salary at the beginning of every month. Thats okay. Don’t feel bad about it. But, and that is a huge but… every human on earth has 24 hours per day. So if you sleep 8 hours and work 8 hours, you already have  8 hours left which you can use to improve your life, YOUR LIFE… Even if you love sleeping and you usually sleep 10 hours on a  daily basis you will still have a time period of 6 hours per day, which you can use to realize your dreams.

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Before I started my wedding agengy after given birth to our first child I supported all of our businesses just from the backround. I really felt proud as I recognized that I don’t like to manage things from the back anymore.

My personal light was too bright for just sitting there behind the scenes and acting in a passive way waiting to see if others can do what I want them to do. I am a person who is active and being passive is not healthy for me.

As our daughter was born I realized how beautiful life can be if you do the things you love to do. For sure my job contains parts which I don’t like so much as other parts… but generally spoken I can admit: My own business is a strong pillar in my life…. it brings so much joy to my heart, while it challenges me to improve my personal skills and the service of my company day by day. It’s a great process with many options. It is like you swim in the ocean and you can see that you will be confronted with huge waves… but you love the process and the feeling of being challenged and the water which splashes right into your face. You will dive through the water and constantly grow with the obstacles you meet.

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As I started my business I wrote blogposts and invested all my freetime in analysing the market and finding cooperations and so on. It was a slow process and at first I did not earn so much. I knew that my husband was observing my journey and that he often thought I am silly, because I spent so many hours in my “company baby”. But I was full of passion and did sometimes not realize how many hours I was in my home office to move forward and become successful.

If you do content-marketing, which I basically did, you will not see great results after a few days. But if you want to build a company which is sustainable and strong, you need to become an expert and offer best service and insider knowledge for your costumer. If they trust you, they will pay you for literally everything. That’s valuable marketing.

I love to compare content-marketing with the work of a farmer. If he seeds, it takes a couple of month until he can harvests fruits and veggies. And sowing is not enough, the plants need enough sunlight and water. If you build a business and start it from scratch then you really need to invest time and your heart into the whole process.

But trust me, if you do what you love to do, then you will never want to stop it, and it does not feel like working at all. It’s totally fulfilling, a game-changer for your life and will satisfy yourself in so many ways.

Probably you will not find me waiting for a train at 5 a.m. I am an early riser but I scheduled my day and my working routine as I want to. It’s in harmony with my body, mind and soul.

The reason while I smile if I enter my home office is that I really appreciate my work. I am the boss. If I mess something up I need to take the consequences for my mistakes. If I perform good and do my best and a little bit more I will get great results and amazing feedback from my costumers and they will recommend me to others.

They believe in me because they realize that I am working with all my heart. They feel it with every step I make and every word I speak. If somebody needs an advise I don’t feel shy to speak out the truth. What’s about you? Do you love what you do? Do you like to improve yourself and learn more?

The key to your happiness is to do the things you always wanted to. Traveling? Freetime? Being creative? Being unindependent? Driving a Porsche or Ferrari? Owning a house with a pool? Helping others? It does not matter what is your engine to get yourself motivated… if you have a clue of your dreams… then promise yourself for 2019 that you will work on them to realize them as soon as possible.

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You can establish your own company or side business easily allthough you do that 9 to 5 job. You just need to reconnect with yourself. What is that thing I am burning for? Which things I am interested in? What is my hobby? As a child, before everybody told me what I should do…what did I really wanted to be or do? Do I want to change the world? Help others? Create things? Entertaining people? Writing? Inventing? Exploring? Ask yourself questions, like nobody every asked you before. Write your answers down and put all those little pieces of your puzzle together. I am sure you will be busy for a while if you reconnect with yourself. Deep inside you know what you would love to do. And if you finally find the key to your own heart, then it will feel secure. It will not be a risk at all.

You will be quiet, and confident and just go for it, because you follow your heart, literally. You will be honest to yourself and honest with all your fears. And you will be 100% authentic afterwards.

There will be no doubts and no execuses anymore. And after a while there will be popping up ideas, and you will be inspired by banal things and people. Perhaps you will see somebody in the train to your 9 to 5 job and that person will inspire you to accomplish something amazing belonging your dream. Hopefully….

I know I was quiet for a while. And my blogfollowers really were patient to let me publish again. I did not feel like writing at all. I also took a break of Instagram and social media, because I had too much input that I felt pretty overwhelmed. I am looking forward for 2019, and I really love to write blogarticles which inspire others  and motivate my readers to optimize their lifes and relationships, so they will be happy and lucky with their journey. Our lifes are too short to just run in a hamsterwheel which does not bring any joy or change to the good. Be you, absolutly yourself. 2019 is your year, you can open new doors and find new paths, if you trust yourself and believe in yourself.

I personally do believe in you. And you should also believe in yourself and trust in your skills and talents, no matter what they are. You can also educate yourself in many ways and find out what you are burning for. You should really invest in yourself and trust in your heart. I am looking forward to 2019. As an optimist I totally trust the journey and take care that I am well prepared for every challenge!

Thank you for reading this blogarticle. If you following me, thank you. If not, consider to follow my blog in order to not miss a post of mine in the future.

 

Warum negative Erlebnisse oft zu positiven Veränderungen führen!

Manchmal geschehen Dinge in deinem Leben, die du nicht erwartet hast. Und andere Male erwartest du etwas, hoffst und arbeitest auf ein gewisses Ziel hinaus und alles kommt anders…wie kannst du lernen, dein Leben so wie es gerade ist, zu genießen? Wie schaffst du es dich auf Veränderungen einzulassen? Erfahre, warum manchmal eine “graue Wolke” zu viel mehr “Sonnenschein” führen kann… Continue reading “Warum negative Erlebnisse oft zu positiven Veränderungen führen!”

Warum die EINE es verdient, jemand Außergewöhnlichen an ihrer Seite zu haben, der sie zum Strahlen bringt!

Gestern war ja Weltfrauentag! Okay, schon gut. Wann war noch mal Weltmännertag? 3. November hab ich mal ge-google-t und laut Wikipedia ist das ein Aktionstag zur Männergesundheit. Na, dann…

worauf ich aber hinaus möchte, ist etwas ganz anderes. Gestern erhielt ich alle möglichen Glückwünsche zum Frauentag, und in den sozialen Medien, war der Fokus auf den POWER-Frauen, die hier weltweit alles schaffen. Immer wieder las ich was, von wir Frauen müssen uns vereinen und zusammenhalten…. ja? Gegen wen? Gegen die bösen Männer? Ich muss dem widersprechen…

Continue reading “Warum die EINE es verdient, jemand Außergewöhnlichen an ihrer Seite zu haben, der sie zum Strahlen bringt!”

Andere Wege gehen, dänische Lebenskultur als Vorreiter für das persönliche Lebensglück

Kennst du bereits das glücklichste Volk auf der Welt? Hast du schon einmal davon gehört, dass die Dänen dafür bekannt sind, die glücklichsten Menschen auf der Erde zu sein? Wenn du dies zum ersten Mal hörst, dann wirst du dich bestimmt fragen, warum sind sie denn so erfüllt? Lese weiter, ich verrate es dir gerne… Continue reading “Andere Wege gehen, dänische Lebenskultur als Vorreiter für das persönliche Lebensglück”

TOP-Interview mit Kommunikationstrainerin und Paarcoach zum wichtigen Thema: Kommunikation in der Partnerschaft

Wieso kommunizieren Frauen anders als Männer? Welche Unterschiede gibt es? Wie kommunizieren wir von Anfang an wertschätzend miteinander? Wie gehen wir mit Krisen um? Wenn Kommunikation heftige Diskussionen in der Partnerschaft auslöst und sich die Fronten verhärten. Was ist empfehlenswert? Wie hält man die Kommunikation in Langzeit-Beziehungen aufrecht? Binationale Paare kämpfen mit Sprachbarrieren und Kulturunterschieden in punkto Kommunikation. Welche Tipps können binationalen die Kommunikation erleichtern? Männer kommunizieren anders. Erfahre die 3 ultimativen Quick-Tipps, damit du in deiner Partnerschaft eine bessere Kommunikation erleben kannst.

Top-Paar-Coach und Kommunikationstrainerin Bernadette Bergmann-Ayari stellt sich mutig meinen Fragen und gibt zahlreiche Tipps zum Thema Kommunikation in der Partnerschaft. Hier der Video Bild-Link (einfach auf das Bild klicken!)

Intervie mit Bernadette Bergmann-Ayari

Sharing is caring. Teilt das Video doch mit Euren Freunden, damit die auch Ihre Kommunikation in der Partnerschaft verbessern können!

5 Schritte, um bei Unentschlossenheit für Klarheit zu sorgen

Kennst du das, wenn du nicht weißt, wie du dich entscheiden sollst?  Wenn du alles und jeden in Frage stellst? Wenn du Pläne, die du geschmiedet hast, am liebsten über den Haufen werfen würdest? Ich zeige dir 5 sinnvolle Schritte, um bei Unentschlossenheit für Klarheit zu sorgen: Continue reading “5 Schritte, um bei Unentschlossenheit für Klarheit zu sorgen”

Can u feel it? Try to hear your inner voice

Sometimes in your body are occouring strange feelings if you are thinking about something you really want to do. There is your heart, which likes to achieve something new, bringing that joy into your life. And on the other side there is your mindset, which tells you what to do or what you should or could or would. The mindset requests all your thinking and feelings and takes a big influence on your personal point of view.

We all grew up with the dogma of our sorroundings. Parents, familymembers, teachers… they all shaped our characters. They put a mark on everything we did in the past.

Do you know those phrases? For example “Dont run too fast!”, “Don’t be so messy, its disgusting!”, “Hurry up! Dont be lazy…, or very famous: “If somebody wants to be successful he has to try hard for it.”  Perhaps you have heared other phrases in the past, but those speach of the persons who were close to you in your childhood are now still deep grounded in your soul. And if you try to take a decision, those phrases will tell you their right or wrong. But is it you? Your inner voice? NO! Its not.

Okay, let us play a game. Imagination game. Trust me. Just imagine what you read right now: There is a person called Sandra. She is really tough, working in a good position in a big company in the finance industry. She is well-shaped, very attractive and takes care of her visual identity. She is working very hard, and at the end of her day she is really tired. But there is always somebody inside herself telling her that it is not enough. She always tries to be on time, handling all business stuff as professionell as she can. Her colleagues admire her and her performance.

But if she will be finished with her work and comes home, she is feeling like a wreck. She is not impressed by herself, really not. It’s a pity, but she always wanting to optimize her style, her performance & her working achievements. Never feels satisfied by herself, never is proud of herself.

But she is really unlucky in private. At home there is a mess. She feels ashame. Nobody of her collueges ever came to visit her flat. She is not able to handle her houswork. Do you know why? She is exhausted. She is so busy at her work and not giving her self a gift of a break, that she is running on empty, if she is at home.  She is so tired that she is unable to unload the dishwasher or just clean her dining table. And do you know what? She is really feeling lonely. Allthough she has a lot of contacts at work and at the gym, in private she is very isolated, because she feels ashame, that her home is not tidy and well arranged as it should be.

Do you feel it? She is looking kind of successful, but in reality she is totally unlucky with her life. Who is telling her to try so hard at work? Who is making her to be that lonely? Her mother told her everytime as she was a child, that untidyness is a bad habit. As a small girl she was exhorted by her mom that her room is not as clean as it should be. It made her feeling small and bad, if her mom asked her. “Dont you feel ashame for that mess you made? People don’t like untidy people. If you will stay like this, nobody wants to spend time with you!”. Her mom used that phrases perhaps less then ten times, but it was etched into Sandras memory.

Her dad was always working hard. But in his position he was always trying to earn more for the family, but did not achieve his goal. As Sandra was small he wished her to make it better then himself. Beeing well-educated & earning enough money to have a higher standard then himself was his aim for his daughter. So he often told her that phrase: “You have to go an extra mile. Work harder, and you will be successful. If somebody wants to be smart, he has so try hard for it.” Okay he meant it in a good way, for him it was a good adwise. But these phrases made Sandra to work harder and harder and not fix a border for herself. She felt exhausted but could not stop to burn herself out.

The words of her mother made her feel that a person who does not have a perfect clean home is not adorable. Sandra thought that nobody could love her, if there were a sink full of dirt dishes or a pile of unwashed clothes on the floor. You know what? In her opinion she should be perfect at work and at home but thats a impossible thing. Her working day were more than 8 hours.

And then she met that man at the gym. Obviously he seems to be attracted by her. He asked her to have a drink together and because she felt lonely and he was so kind she confirmed his invitation suddenly. They went out together a couple of times and then he asked her to come over to her flat.

She was shocked and could not handle it. He recognized her reaction and asked her, if she want to see his flat at first. She felt relieved and puted her hand into his and went to his home.

Oh, it was a holy mess. And he did not feel ashame. NOPE! He was laughing and just telling her: Sorry, for that mess. I am not that good at organizing my stuff. But I wanted to spent some more time with you and if you like to dance with me right now, we could hear some great music… He did not wait to get an answer for her–just putting some nice music on and made some crazy moves to get her laugh. Sandra was standing in front of a chaotic man who was so lovely and funny that she changed her mindset: NO, messy people are adorable. Messy people are not bad at all. I think I like him more than I thought. My home ist really tidy by comparison to this mess! She smiled…

Sandra listened to her inner voice for the first time. She founded “Her inner perception”. And she did let go her mothers oldfashioned phrases that just clean people would be loved.

Did you enjoy this story? Hopefully… you now what? Sandra became another person after a while. She did found her inner voice, because she met somebody who listened to his inner voice and he had shown her to listen to these deep power inside herself, not to a mindset of her past.

After some month they really got a good relationship, she felt loved and did not feel ashame to show him her home anymore. They spent a lot of time together and she was really lucky.

At work she was happy too. Because she found out, that she does not have to try harder, but put her heart into her job. The colleagues recognized her personal changing and felt more impressed by her than before. In the past she was just working and giving her best for the company by trying hard. But now she developed a special kind of charisma which seemed to please al those clients who would appear in that company she worked in. After a while her boss asked her to get a higher position. She could get a higher salary and get great responsibility. Why? Because she stopped to try harder, just knowing that her skills are good and beeing totally herself.

Thanks to that guy who she met at the gym. Because his inner voice told him that these grey mouse cold be a red cat, if she just would listen to her inner power. Sandra was offered a big oppurtunity of changing her mindset ones for all!

Everybody has a inner voice. Some people ignore these kind of power. I want to advise you to write a list about your personal phrases. Did your parents, relatives, teachers, friends told you some sentences in the past which always are repeated by yourself right now?

Do you think these phrases are right? Is it your opinion? Or just the opinion of another person?

Find your own phrases. Find your own solutions. Find you own “I want to do’s” and that “I dont want anymore…”

Do you know what? If I would have listened to my father in the past, I would have sitting in a healthy insurance company working there, being totally bored. Because I am not that kind of person having a 08/15 job, sitting at a table with a calculator just to make sure I will have a secure income at the beginning of the next month. No. Its not me. But if I would have listened to my dad advices I would not achieve my personal goals which are important for my life. My father wanted the best for me to be safe, but I like to work unindependently, setting my own rules, working in an comfy atmosphere… scheduling my working time and free time by myself… beeing creative and doing something which is totally me.

So, I made my dream come true…and put my wedding agency as a strong pillar into my life. And for 2018 I will always try my best to listen to my inner voice, more than before. My emotional side helps couples to feel comfortable and to trust in me.  I am really happy to got rid of some old phrases of my past, which really stopped me before to do what I can do.

I hope you find out some more about yourself in 2018. There is a power sleeping in yourself. You just have to awaken your inner voice. Find your likes and dislikes, you pros and cons, your aims and oppurtunities in 2018!

Make the best of yourself! Be grateful about who you are, every single day. You derserve it.

 

 

Danke für ein tolles und aufregendes Jahr 2017

Ich gehe jetzt einfach mal meinem Impuls nach und möchte mich bei allen Paaren bedanken, die mir im Jahr 2017 ihr Vertrauen geschenkt und mich als Organisatorin für ihre Hochzeit in Dänemark ausgewählt haben. Es hat mir wirklich Riesenspass gemacht, euch allen dabei zu helfen, standesamtlich “Ja-Sagen zu dürfen!”.

Ich möchte mich auch bei den Paaren bedanken, die mich vor Herausforderungen gestellt haben, weil es entweder super eilig war oder es Probleme mit den Dokumenten, der Anreise etc. gab. Diese “Stolpersteine” haben mir dabei geholfen, mein Unternehmen weiter zu optimieren und meine Dienstleistung noch individueller und persönlicher zu gestalten. Letztendlich ist ja immer noch alles gut gegangen. Erfolgsquote liegt nach wie vor bei 100%, FREU :O).

Ich möchte mich bei alles Standesbeamten, Kooperationspartnern, Hoteliers, Restaurantbesitzern, Floristinnen, Hair & Make-up Artisten, Fotografen und auch Sängern bedanken, die alle so liebevoll und freundlich mit mir im Austausch sind und immer bemüht sind, die Wünsche der Hochzeitspaare bestmöglich zu realisieren.

Dänemark und seine Geschäftswelt

Mein größter Dank gilt allerdings meiner Mama :O). Sie ist die aufmerksamste Zuhörerin der ganzen Welt. Ihre emotionale Unterstützung hat mich in dunklen Momenten in 2017 dazu gebracht, ganz bei mir und nur meiner Linie treu zu bleiben: “Nur wenn du auf deiner Insel bleibst, kannst du den anderen Menschen mit Ihren Problemen helfen. Es hilft Ihnen nichts, wenn du dich von Ihren Emotionen herunterziehen lässt! Bleib’ auf deiner Insel, dann kannst du Ihnen auch helfen”. Das habe ich dann auch getan!

Meine Mutter mit ihrer inneren Ruhe und Ausgeglichenheit hat mich unheimlich darin bestärkt und inspiriert, insbesondere im Jahr 2017 meinen ganz eigenen Weg mit der Agentur Herzensfreude zu gehen. Egal, was alle anderen sagten, sie stand in jeder Situation hinter mir. Auch bei Preiserhöhungen. Denn es ist wichtig, wenn du an dich selbst den Anspruch hast professionell am Markt zu sein, auch ordentlich dafür bezahlt zu werden. Denn wer sehr gute Leistung erbringt, muss es sich auch selbst wert sein, angemessen belohnt zu werden. Die Erkenntnis war Gold wert. Jede Agentur hat ihre eigenen Kunden. Danke, Mama, du bist die Beste!

mom you are the best! Danke Mama

Außerdem möchte ich noch insbesondere Theresa Ehsani, Verena Sati, Emanuel Dragomir & Benedikt Ahlfeld für ganz wertvolle Impulse im Jahr 2017 danken! Ich habe sehr viele Prozesse, die nicht locker liefen, durch Eurer KnowHow verändert und zum Positiven hin optimiert. Riesenlob an Eure Leistungen, die Ihr erbringt und Eure positiven Ausstrahlungen, die andere begeistern!

Liebe Abonnenten meines Blogs, auch an Euch ein großes Dank für Eure treue Leserschaft!

Liebe Freunde in den Sozialen Netzwerken. Danke für Eure Likes, Kommentare und persönlichen Pins. Eure Posts haben mich teils erheitert, teils nachdenklich gestimmt. Ich hoffe auf weiteren, regen Austausch in der nahen Zukunft.

Ich wünsche Euch allen einen guten Rutsch ins Jahr 2018!

Ich hoffe, ihr habt Euch alle reichlich Ziele für das neue Jahr gesetzt.

Meine privaten und beruflichen Ziele sind wie immer zahlreich! Wäre ja auch nicht ich, wenn ich nicht aktiv wäre?! Ich freue mich am meisten auf die Sommerferien 2018 und bin jetzt schon aufgeregt, aber im positiven Sinne! In den Sommerferien werde ich einige, ausgewählte Paare (Bewerbung bis Ende April 2018 möglich) persönlich bei Ihrer Strandhochzeit in Dänemark betreuen  (inkl. professionelle Fotografin & Hair-und Make-up Artist).

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Privat ist mein größtest Ziel wohl die Teilnahme am Köln-Marathon 2018. Das wollte ich schon immer mal machen. Ich hoffe, ich schaffe es bis zur Ziellinie :O). Außerdem werde ich mehr Beiträge zum Thema Selbstmotivation schreiben. Ich persönlich liebe es Ziele zu haben, egal ob persönliche oder berufliche. Es tut so gut, seine Träume & Wünsche zu verwirklichen und zu sehen, dass es alles schlichtweg eine mentale Sache ist. Deswegen macht es mir auch Spaß, andere zu motivieren. Mein Optimismus steckt hoffentlich im Jahr 2018 zahlreiche Menschen an!

Marathon

 

Ab dem 3.1.2018 öffnen wieder die meisten Standesämter in Dänemark und ich freue mich auf ein erfolgreiches und kreatives Jahr 2018 mit Paaren, die wissen was Sie wollen und mir ihr Vertrauen schenken! Nur für Hochzeiten in Kopenhagen ist eine längere Anlaufzeit notwendig. Da sollten wir schon mindestens 4 Wochen im voraus planen! Ansonsten kann ich auch recht spontan Euren Hochzeitstermin in mittlerweile, zahlreichen anderen Ortschaften organisieren…

Hochzeit in Kopenhagen save the date

 

 

Wie fülle ich eine Eheerklärung richtig aus? Heiraten in Dänemark, Videokurzanleitung

Da ich immer wieder aufs Neue den Paaren erkläre, wie sie genau bei dem Eheerklärungsformular vorgehen sollen bzw. sehr oft fehlerhaft ausgefüllte Formulare erhalte, habe ich beschlossen, eine Video-Kurzanleitung zu erstellen.

Wie ihr schnell & bequem am PC bzw. Laptop dieses Formular ausfüllt, erfahrt ihr in meinem Video-Tutorial. Ich hoffe, es zeigt Euch, wie einfach es ist, das Ganze in 5 Minuten abzuhaken. Denn Ihr habt sicherlich Besseres zu tun, als Euch mit Behördenkram herumzuschlagen ;O)

Ich hoffe, dieses Video hilft Euch weiter und erleichtert allen Beteiligten: Euch, mir und den Standesbeamten die Termin-Organisation für Eure standesamtliche Hochzeit in Dänemark. Gut vorbereitete Unterlagen ersparen allen Kopfschmerzen & Nachfragen und werden schnell akzeptiert!

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