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How can I offer love and appreciation to my spouse if I am very busy?

  • Most of my clients run their own business. Entrepreneurship is what all people speak about today and it can bring a magical impact to your life:
    • If your good in what you are doing, hopefully you can earn a lot of money
      If you are successful as an entrepreneur you decide about what comes next and that is really powerful
      If you run a business successfully you define the rules about your life instead of working 8-5 for others.
  • There are lots of others advantages to be an entrepreneur. But one disadvantage can really eliminate your happiness. Perhaps you already guess what I will write about:
  • Relationship- aka private life!
  • Who wants to build an empire does know how it feels like to overwork and invest every second of time into your „business thing“. I really have a lot of experiences with that issue because I know that a qualified, wellstructured and successful business does not arise overnight.
  • To some people it seems like your success was gifted to you by a witch overnight. But I need to inform you about the fact that most successful people are full in their zone and that they did go through tough times until their finally succeed. And many of them are always working on innovations and taking care about their success because it is easy to loose the game.
  • Every person is offered 24 hours daily. You need to be aware about your priorities, especially those besides your business.
  • I know it’s really hard to switch the off-button sometimes. I personally went to a lot of extraordinarily mental issues of my costumers. And because I am so empathizing with other people, it is sometimes really hard to not overthink problems of others after my work is finished.
  • Imagine you run a business for technical devices. That business was build with all your heart and you feel connected with it every single moment in your life. You are sure about the fact that it will grow if you put more effort in it.
  • But then you see that face of your wife who loves that fancy clothes, and that house you bought a couple of month to show her that you love her and just want her to enjoy all the best things in life. But something is not okay with her. She became quiet. She is looking sad although in your opinion she should be happy about all that higher standard your smart business offered to her lifestyle.
  • While you are hustling, working day and night you did not realise that she feels lonely. Even if you are sitting beside her your mind is just thinking about the next meeting and how to convert that company which you are going to meet into an high- paying client.
  • Perhaps she does not want to be ungrateful. But time can be a big issue in a relationship. While one person might be happy with a functional sex life, the other person wants to connect and spend time with that person. Quality-time is the keyword to a happy marriage. It does not matter how many hours you can offer for your wife. But you should take care of her emotional needs. If you are physically present but your thoughts are flying to another area, then that does not mean quality time.
  • I really know how you feel about that because I really thought that if I invest more time in my business it will be more successful then before. That might be a great thought, but it will have private consequences.
  • If you still want that partnership while you are building your business then you should take care of it. Investing time in that partnership is necessary in order to offer appreciation and show your love.
  • Gifts might be a possibilty to build a bridge in busy times. But it should not be the main issue in your partnership. Your lady rather want to consume you and be entertained by you then being lonely in that house with a lot of gifts.
  • You can show your appreciation on a daily basis and this hacks don’t take a bunch of time:
    • Before you leave the house kiss her and say to her that you are looking forward to meet her again
      Write a post-it which really blows her mind
      Give her a phone call in between to meetings. Hey you find time to check you Instagram account? Call her and tell her that you just asked yourself what she is doing right now
      If you need to go on a travel because of your business, ask her to take a piece of clothes of her with you. That is way you want to have her smell close to you if you need to stay overnight in a lonely hotel room
      Use Skype and other divices to get a short personal review of her day
      Ask her which issue made her sad and which issue made her happy
      Hold her hand, touch her neck, put your arm over her shoulder
      Ask her about her personal wishes
      Surprise her by coming out of your comfort zone
  • You see there are lots of possibilities to connect with each other and to show her that you love her. Going out with her and having a dinner outside, having a movie night together…meeting for a lunch in a restaurant… there are lots of options.
  • I hope that you reconnect with your spouse this weekend. I am really busy all week long, but on my weekends I am just that mom of our children and a caring wife of my husband. Finally I realized that I am more successful if my husband and our kids feel loved and appreciated. It’s like recharging a battery. And my battery needs to be full too.
  • On mondays I will feel totally ready for business action. And on fridays I need to be totally aware of checking out of my business zone.
  • If I find enough time for those I love then I will be happier and can create new ideas and realize dreams for my business. If I feel bad about my private life, I will not have that huge potential and I will be emotionally distracted.
  • Being aware of your current situation is really important. It does not matter if you had a fight and if you feel depressed. You just need to focus on your partnershipgoal- like on your businessgoals. If there arises a problem you will be able to solve it immediately.
  • Why should you wait belonging relationships? Invest in your partnership and build a strong empire of love and appreciation. If your wife feels loved and respected by you, she will support you business too.
  • Have a nice weekend. What do you think about entrepreneurship and marriage? Do you think that my hacks could help you to improve your relationship? What can you recommend to connect as a couple while you are growing a business?
  • Which problem do you want to solve in your relationship?

    Many people enjoy reading lovestories and most people love to get advices for a happy relationship. Why? Probably because we love that feeling of reading romantic stories or listening to someone who can show us, how we can be happier then right now?

    I personally like to watch romantic movies and I like those kind of movies where couples go to a lot (!!!) of struggle but at the end of the movie there is a kind of happy end. Okay, sorry that is to much illusion for you? Might be, because the reality is not about rainbows and butterflies… Weiterlesen „Which problem do you want to solve in your relationship?“

    Commitment: Happiness and Entrepreneurship

    The last couples of days I was very busy. It made me feel strange about myself. I felt productive as well as innovative, because I dealt with so many issues on one plate for a certain time.

    Do you know that feeling if you are in the flaw and want to realize something and could literally spend hours and hours with realizing a certain project? Yes, I was totally into that.

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    As I had a little smalltalk with my husband, abruptly he asked me: „When are you going to plug out? Didn’t you want to do sport exercises instead of sitting every single minute of your me-time in the home office?“

    Oh. I suddenly became silent! Guilty! Totally right. He caught me just by one or two specific questions. Really, it hurt me, because I felt bad about the fact that I wanted to do more sports, but did not exercise right now. He definently did hit the mark.

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    I am so greatful to have this guy around me who literally puts the truth into my face. I cannot ignore it then. He always helps me to find time to reconnect with myself. And he is that kind of guy who probably is saying nothing at all or just announcing an emergency case which needs a quick solution. At this point the emergency issues belonged to my overwhelmed me. He announced it and reminded me of my personal goals.

    The main problem of entrepreneurship is, if that most people are plugged in all day long.

    They are available with they smart-phones, have that „rings & peeps“ if an email is coming in. And because they fight for their business to be more successful, they miss to set boundaries for themselves.

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    In the past I  was all day available. Customers called me even in the evening and I answered, because I just thought: Okay, one more couple will help me to achieve what I want to realize with my business.

    But then, I realized I am busy all day long and my mind is cruising around all these problems of other people I need solve. After a while I felt like I am a bad mom and a horrible wife, because I got addicted to push my agency day and night. I caught myself once or twice by being careless about those people who love me. My mind was just full of thoughts and  random feelings of others. If  I was having an ipad or smartphone around  I was just searching for stuff belonging my business in order to push it further.

    Workaholic? Yes. And it might be great for people to work 100 hours a week, if they are unmarried and without any other responsibility.

    But if you also have high values and you are running a family with children besides that „business“, then you need to be smart and effective instead of just investing hours and hours into that „businessbaby“. If I would not have that husband and our children, I would spend a few more hours in my home office or would be traveling a lot belonging my company.

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    But the reason I started that business was to realize a business which depends on my own skills and abilities and which delivers cash flow in order to realize our dreams as a family and my personal ones too. I wanted to run an online business to be present for my children and to be available as a wife too. I started with good intentions and believed in my vision of business as nobody else did, because I felt it deep inside.

    I wanted to do something I am passionate about and which did not depend on somebody else favour. I wanted to have a business which is not just at one place. Being flexible and not limited to a certain location was the most incredible thing about it.

    I could work by traveling around the world as well as moving my home, because I just would need WLAN and my technical equipment and beside this also all of my heart.

    I always pushed my agency in order to realize a better future for us & our children and to give them opportunities and to teach them high values. If I am an idol for my children, a lovely mother and a person who helps others, they hopefully will recognize how important it is to share thoughts and feelings with other humans and be caring and kind to people.

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    It was very important to set boundaries, rules and a certain plan for me in order to run a successful business but still being a happy person with a private life, hobbies and a family so far.

    Now my time for phonecalls is limited for monday-thursday between 9-11 am. If costumers call at other times I will not answer my phone anymore. If they are busy at my phonetime, they can write an email and ask me to call them back (agentur.herzensfreude@yahoo.de). That’s different. How many times I got distracted, because I was doing certain things and then somebody calls me with a bunch of questions?

    In the past I learned a lot belonging business in general. Entrepreneurs often think, that they need to be available everytime. Most of them assume: „If I am not available for a specific costumer, he/she could contact another entrepeneur instead of me!“

    Perhaps that can happen, of course. But for me that is just a bad thought. You can change your mindset about that. If you are an expert and you are the best, people will call you even if you are just available once a month.

    Why there are so many restaurants out there, where people truly reservate a couple of weeks before in order to get a desk with food in that place? Because the restaurant is a special place and people love to go somewhere they feel important, even if they have to wait to get an appointment, or just because of that!

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    So if you are an expert and doing your job well, people will be thankful to reach you and not consist on that being available everytime thing!

    There are so many musicians out there and their fans are begging for releasing the new album, but they just constantly wait. Do all these fans reject their music? No, they are longing for hearing something new of their favorite band and still stay tuned.

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    So I literally pluged off and set a new plan for my new working schedule. I really felt guilty, because I know I am really passionate about my job as a wedding visionary and relationship expert. Honestly I firstly felt like I would do something wrong, because if I invest more time in my business I will also earn the fruits of my dedication.

    But I need to be happy too. If I am just stressed out, I will not be that person who can help others to solve their problems nor think positive for them, if they nearly turn apart. I truly recommend everybody, especially to people who run a business: Find the time for a certain hobby, some kind of activity which melts all your sorrow and creates happiness instead!

    For me its having a great, intensive workout. I feel bad about the fact that I allthough I really love it, did not find the time for it for a while.

    But this blogarticle is a personal commitment to myself and a great reminder if I will jump into that workaholic hamsterwheel again. Put yourself first. Find time for the things you really love and you will be lucky and more productive then before!

    Because if you do something you love and then plug in to work, your ability to create something new and be productive is amazing und you will become unstoppable.

    So let’s plug off and get those sportshoes on! ;O)

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    What is your opinion about happiness if you running an own business? Do you find time for those things which bring joy to you? If so, which things do you love? Are you feeling more productive if you increase your happiness level on a regular basis?

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