Most of my clients run their own business. Entrepreneurship is what all people speak about today and it can bring a magical impact to your life:
If your good in what you are doing, hopefully you can earn a lot of money
If you are successful as an entrepreneur you decide about what comes next and that is really powerful
If you run a business successfully you define the rules about your life instead of working 8-5 for others.
There are lots of others advantages to be an entrepreneur. But one disadvantage can really eliminate your happiness. Perhaps you already guess what I will write about:
Relationship- aka private life!
Who wants to build an empire does know how it feels like to overwork and invest every second of time into your „business thing“. I really have a lot of experiences with that issue because I know that a qualified, wellstructured and successful business does not arise overnight.
To some people it seems like your success was gifted to you by a witch overnight. But I need to inform you about the fact that most successful people are full in their zone and that they did go through tough times until their finally succeed. And many of them are always working on innovations and taking care about their success because it is easy to loose the game.
Every person is offered 24 hours daily. You need to be aware about your priorities, especially those besides your business.
I know it’s really hard to switch the off-button sometimes. I personally went to a lot of extraordinarily mental issues of my costumers. And because I am so empathizing with other people, it is sometimes really hard to not overthink problems of others after my work is finished.
Imagine you run a business for technical devices. That business was build with all your heart and you feel connected with it every single moment in your life. You are sure about the fact that it will grow if you put more effort in it.
But then you see that face of your wife who loves that fancy clothes, and that house you bought a couple of month to show her that you love her and just want her to enjoy all the best things in life. But something is not okay with her. She became quiet. She is looking sad although in your opinion she should be happy about all that higher standard your smart business offered to her lifestyle.
While you are hustling, working day and night you did not realise that she feels lonely. Even if you are sitting beside her your mind is just thinking about the next meeting and how to convert that company which you are going to meet into an high- paying client.
Perhaps she does not want to be ungrateful. But time can be a big issue in a relationship. While one person might be happy with a functional sex life, the other person wants to connect and spend time with that person. Quality-time is the keyword to a happy marriage. It does not matter how many hours you can offer for your wife. But you should take care of her emotional needs. If you are physically present but your thoughts are flying to another area, then that does not mean quality time.
I really know how you feel about that because I really thought that if I invest more time in my business it will be more successful then before. That might be a great thought, but it will have private consequences.
If you still want that partnership while you are building your business then you should take care of it. Investing time in that partnership is necessary in order to offer appreciation and show your love.
Gifts might be a possibilty to build a bridge in busy times. But it should not be the main issue in your partnership. Your lady rather want to consume you and be entertained by you then being lonely in that house with a lot of gifts.
You can show your appreciation on a daily basis and this hacks don’t take a bunch of time:
Before you leave the house kiss her and say to her that you are looking forward to meet her again
Write a post-it which really blows her mind
Give her a phone call in between to meetings. Hey you find time to check you Instagram account? Call her and tell her that you just asked yourself what she is doing right now
If you need to go on a travel because of your business, ask her to take a piece of clothes of her with you. That is way you want to have her smell close to you if you need to stay overnight in a lonely hotel room
Use Skype and other divices to get a short personal review of her day
Ask her which issue made her sad and which issue made her happy
Hold her hand, touch her neck, put your arm over her shoulder
Ask her about her personal wishes
Surprise her by coming out of your comfort zone
You see there are lots of possibilities to connect with each other and to show her that you love her. Going out with her and having a dinner outside, having a movie night together…meeting for a lunch in a restaurant… there are lots of options.
I hope that you reconnect with your spouse this weekend. I am really busy all week long, but on my weekends I am just that mom of our children and a caring wife of my husband. Finally I realized that I am more successful if my husband and our kids feel loved and appreciated. It’s like recharging a battery. And my battery needs to be full too.
On mondays I will feel totally ready for business action. And on fridays I need to be totally aware of checking out of my business zone.
If I find enough time for those I love then I will be happier and can create new ideas and realize dreams for my business. If I feel bad about my private life, I will not have that huge potential and I will be emotionally distracted.
Being aware of your current situation is really important. It does not matter if you had a fight and if you feel depressed. You just need to focus on your partnershipgoal- like on your businessgoals. If there arises a problem you will be able to solve it immediately.
Why should you wait belonging relationships? Invest in your partnership and build a strong empire of love and appreciation. If your wife feels loved and respected by you, she will support you business too.
Have a nice weekend. What do you think about entrepreneurship and marriage? Do you think that my hacks could help you to improve your relationship? What can you recommend to connect as a couple while you are growing a business?