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How can I offer love and appreciation to my spouse if I am very busy?

  • Most of my clients run their own business. Entrepreneurship is what all people speak about today and it can bring a magical impact to your life:
    • If your good in what you are doing, hopefully you can earn a lot of money
      If you are successful as an entrepreneur you decide about what comes next and that is really powerful
      If you run a business successfully you define the rules about your life instead of working 8-5 for others.
  • There are lots of others advantages to be an entrepreneur. But one disadvantage can really eliminate your happiness. Perhaps you already guess what I will write about:
  • Relationship- aka private life!
  • Who wants to build an empire does know how it feels like to overwork and invest every second of time into your „business thing“. I really have a lot of experiences with that issue because I know that a qualified, wellstructured and successful business does not arise overnight.
  • To some people it seems like your success was gifted to you by a witch overnight. But I need to inform you about the fact that most successful people are full in their zone and that they did go through tough times until their finally succeed. And many of them are always working on innovations and taking care about their success because it is easy to loose the game.
  • Every person is offered 24 hours daily. You need to be aware about your priorities, especially those besides your business.
  • I know it’s really hard to switch the off-button sometimes. I personally went to a lot of extraordinarily mental issues of my costumers. And because I am so empathizing with other people, it is sometimes really hard to not overthink problems of others after my work is finished.
  • Imagine you run a business for technical devices. That business was build with all your heart and you feel connected with it every single moment in your life. You are sure about the fact that it will grow if you put more effort in it.
  • But then you see that face of your wife who loves that fancy clothes, and that house you bought a couple of month to show her that you love her and just want her to enjoy all the best things in life. But something is not okay with her. She became quiet. She is looking sad although in your opinion she should be happy about all that higher standard your smart business offered to her lifestyle.
  • While you are hustling, working day and night you did not realise that she feels lonely. Even if you are sitting beside her your mind is just thinking about the next meeting and how to convert that company which you are going to meet into an high- paying client.
  • Perhaps she does not want to be ungrateful. But time can be a big issue in a relationship. While one person might be happy with a functional sex life, the other person wants to connect and spend time with that person. Quality-time is the keyword to a happy marriage. It does not matter how many hours you can offer for your wife. But you should take care of her emotional needs. If you are physically present but your thoughts are flying to another area, then that does not mean quality time.
  • I really know how you feel about that because I really thought that if I invest more time in my business it will be more successful then before. That might be a great thought, but it will have private consequences.
  • If you still want that partnership while you are building your business then you should take care of it. Investing time in that partnership is necessary in order to offer appreciation and show your love.
  • Gifts might be a possibilty to build a bridge in busy times. But it should not be the main issue in your partnership. Your lady rather want to consume you and be entertained by you then being lonely in that house with a lot of gifts.
  • You can show your appreciation on a daily basis and this hacks don’t take a bunch of time:
    • Before you leave the house kiss her and say to her that you are looking forward to meet her again
      Write a post-it which really blows her mind
      Give her a phone call in between to meetings. Hey you find time to check you Instagram account? Call her and tell her that you just asked yourself what she is doing right now
      If you need to go on a travel because of your business, ask her to take a piece of clothes of her with you. That is way you want to have her smell close to you if you need to stay overnight in a lonely hotel room
      Use Skype and other divices to get a short personal review of her day
      Ask her which issue made her sad and which issue made her happy
      Hold her hand, touch her neck, put your arm over her shoulder
      Ask her about her personal wishes
      Surprise her by coming out of your comfort zone
  • You see there are lots of possibilities to connect with each other and to show her that you love her. Going out with her and having a dinner outside, having a movie night together…meeting for a lunch in a restaurant… there are lots of options.
  • I hope that you reconnect with your spouse this weekend. I am really busy all week long, but on my weekends I am just that mom of our children and a caring wife of my husband. Finally I realized that I am more successful if my husband and our kids feel loved and appreciated. It’s like recharging a battery. And my battery needs to be full too.
  • On mondays I will feel totally ready for business action. And on fridays I need to be totally aware of checking out of my business zone.
  • If I find enough time for those I love then I will be happier and can create new ideas and realize dreams for my business. If I feel bad about my private life, I will not have that huge potential and I will be emotionally distracted.
  • Being aware of your current situation is really important. It does not matter if you had a fight and if you feel depressed. You just need to focus on your partnershipgoal- like on your businessgoals. If there arises a problem you will be able to solve it immediately.
  • Why should you wait belonging relationships? Invest in your partnership and build a strong empire of love and appreciation. If your wife feels loved and respected by you, she will support you business too.
  • Have a nice weekend. What do you think about entrepreneurship and marriage? Do you think that my hacks could help you to improve your relationship? What can you recommend to connect as a couple while you are growing a business?
  • Which problem do you want to solve in your relationship?

    Many people enjoy reading lovestories and most people love to get advices for a happy relationship. Why? Probably because we love that feeling of reading romantic stories or listening to someone who can show us, how we can be happier then right now?

    I personally like to watch romantic movies and I like those kind of movies where couples go to a lot (!!!) of struggle but at the end of the movie there is a kind of happy end. Okay, sorry that is to much illusion for you? Might be, because the reality is not about rainbows and butterflies… Weiterlesen „Which problem do you want to solve in your relationship?“

    Destiny offers loving each other!

    Lately I was wondering about some handsome people who were speaking about love, relationships and marriage issues in public. While I was waiting in a public place waiting for an appointment I heard one of those persons of the group pointing out that a human being should fall in love just once in a life-time.

    He said that real love, means loving somebody who you want to share the whole life with. They discussed a little bit about that speech and I explored that people think so diverse about love as much as people are different of each other.

    There might be a key to love, but the most exciting about is, that the keyhole depends on the person you admire. People fall in love with each other, sometimes its love at the first sight.

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    I know that many people love to read true love stories and that they think they can learn from the issues of the characters. That is way I want to write about one of my costumers, who instructed me to organize his civil wedding in Denmark with his lovely wife a few month ago. As he told me his story I was really impressed about the power of love and the way god (our you might say destiny) changes situations to the good.

    love in a village

    The man I am telling you his story about is living in Germany but has Turkish roots. As a young boy he was living in that Turkish village. As he grew older he saw that girl which was living in his village too, and he really felt impressed by her appearance as well as her charisma. He was young, she was even younger then him and he did miss to tell her about his feelings towards her. Unfortunately he did not dare to tell her about his feelings because he was afraid of refusal and felt too shy.

    Suddenly his parents decided to move to a bigger township in order to achieve a better work situation for their family and a qualified education for their son. He felt bad about the move, but he could not do anything to prevent it.

    In the big town he explored his new areal after a while and finished his school quite well. As he started studying in university he met this girl of his childhood again.

    Her brother who had moved a few years before to the same township had invited his family to his home and the little sister wanted to take a view inside that big university building.

    The man saw her, but again felt to shy to speak with her. After a few months he was invited to a party, as well as his parents. The news melted his heart: His girl had already married a guy of the university campus who did speak to her and speak with her parents too.

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    It was an arranged marriage. The girl married him because she wanted to listen to her parents advice who always told her to marry as young as possible and move to the big township, in order to have a better life then in their village. She listened to them and moved to her husband very soon.

    The man decided to leave turkey in order to work in Germany. It was the time as a lot of German companies hired Turkish workers in their factories. The man I am writing about had studied engineering and his qualities were a guarantee for a great salary.

    He left turkey and started a new life in Germany. He learned the German language and he enjoyed the life in Europe. Meanwhile his parents went back to their village. Without their son they felt lost in the big town, the preferred to go back to their village where all their relatives and friends had their homes.

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    After a few months living in Germany the man felt in love with a german girl. She was the opposite of himself and his passion for her was amazing. Although they both were so different they really loved each other very much. More about twenty years they lived together as a couple and had children too. A few times they went to turkey as a family visiting all his relatives. The german wife was accepted and loved by his family too.

    After one of that vacations his wife became pretty ill. In Germany she went to a hospital and the doctors did found a couple of tomours in her body. They did their best to rescue her from that disease, but they totally failed. The advanced case did not allow to rescue her anymore. After that emergency surgery the man left home as a widow.

    It was a hard time for him. He was totally overstrained. He was not able to take care of himself nor to look after his children who reminded him of his wife every single day. He got really depressed and felt helpless.

    Additionally after a while he got a call of his smaller brother who was still living with his parents in the turkish village. He asked him to visit them as soon as possible, because their father became very ill. Immediately he travelled to his old village. His children were in school and their german grandmother took care of them so far.

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    In the village he was very welcome. The neighbours felt so blessed that he came back again. His father was really ill and just wanted to see his oldest son again before leaving this world. He told him: “Love is an issue which can fall into oblivion. People fall in love and loose their beloved. But sometimes just God knows best and which destiny is the right one for us!”

    After that speech his father closed his eyes and died. The man was overwhelmed. The funeral took three days. A lot people of the village paid their last respect to the father of that man. Surprisingly the girl who he felt for as a boy did visit his family too, in order to express her condolences.

    And that moment was magical. He just felt the phrases of his dad in his heart while she was standing in front of him: “Love is an issue which can fall into oblivion. People fall in love and lose their beloved. But sometimes just God knows best and which destiny is the right one for us!”

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    That girl, who now was a middle-aged woman, still was the most beautiful thing in his eyes. Her charisma made him feel silent and pleasurized.

    She lifted him up by saying encouraging words and he felt less depressed as she told him about her own loss a few month ago. Her husband died a few month ago by a car accident. She told him that her marriage was not a quite happy one but that he respected her very much, although she did not get pregnant all over the years.

    After a while they decided to meet each other a couple of times. She told him, that she was very young as she got married and that she did not knew how it feels to love somebody without expectations. She also told him that she thought that she does not deserve a better marriage because she was not able to give birth to children for her husband.

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    The man went back to Germany and he gave her the promise to come back again. As his children had a long vacation they went back to the village for a few weeks. The woman who was a widow too, went back to the home of her parents after her loss. The man deeply felt in love with this woman and she realized that love can happen too.

    After that holiday he decided to marry her and bring her to Germany. For this reason he contacted me in order to get married in Denmark. It was quite surreal, because he finally married that girl which he one’s felt for. But they really enjoyed their travel to denmark and are now living together as husband and wife in Germany.

    This story offers us so many lessons:

    • Firstly sometimes you meet somebody you might feel attracted to but at this certain situation it is not the right time to get closer. Maybe you meet somebody who is already married or engaged or in a partnership. It would be worse to destroy another bond just because you think it could be the perfect person for yourself.
    • Secondly you might recognize how destiny can put two people together again, even if they are far away from each other. Their is a speech which says that you meet every person at least two times in your life and that is the truth.
    • Thirdly you should never act impatiently, because often you don’t know how a loss can turn out as a gift for you afterwards. Never quarrel with yourself about your destiny.

    Most people can fall in love for a couple of times in life. It is up to their lifestyle and their connection with their inner power how they turn out.

    I did organize a few weddings for those who got divorced or widowed before and did found the right partner for the next period of life afterwards.

    People change and their life’s changes too. It’s impossible to just stay in one status quo. So please, never feel bad about your feelings, dreams and thoughts. Destiny knows best. Stories like that of ones of my couples show me the impact of love and destiny.

    I personally assume, that every human is free and can easily lose his/her heart for somebody. But its up to that circumstances if a relationship or a marriage is possible with that special person. I think everybody has various chances to connect with the right partner, but fewest realize that they were meant to each other.

    How do you think about love? Do you think you just can love one’s in a live time or do you think people will love others for a while and can find love again?  If you are not married right now, which value is the most important for you in life, which you want to share with your future-wife/future-husband?

    Feel free to comment. It would be a pleasure for me to get some answers of my readers! I would love to read about your personal point of view!

    Why should you apologize for the love of your life?

    We all fall in love. There are a few people and the amount of that people is growing constantly, that find themselve attracted to a person of another country or culture.

    There are a lot of prejudices cruising around and heartpeople are often suffering with the questions they get asked by others about their binational relationship.

    • Why do you prefer her?
    • Do you really think that relationship will last?
    • Don’t you have a lot of differences with each other right from the start?
    • How do you want to deal with that partnership in the future? Isn’t its better to quit it soon?
    • Don’t you think the person just uses you and your feelings in order to get a residence permission?

    I admit those questions sound weird, but believe me most binational couples are asked that questions by their closest surrounding, i.e. family and friends & colleagues. And there are a lot of people outside, who just love to interfere into your lovetape.

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    It is not about black & white, yellow & white, muslim & non-muslim, oriental & western.

    Its all about the case, that you did not choose, nor prefer a person of your country, your colour-race and culture.

    Imagine that we are living in a global world and that we connect with each other via worldwideweb so easily. People present themselves openly to the possibilities that networking and internationality can offer.

    But in private? Connecting with foreign people? Living with a person who is totally the opposite of yourself? Sharing a life with somebody who is so different? A few people cannot imagine, how you can deal with that.

    But hey? Is that your problem? No, definitively not.

    Your choices and your life dicisions might not fit to their goals. But it does not mean that you do wrong. On the contrary you should feel more confident in what you do. Don’t let their prejudices become your reality.

    Prejudices are not the truth. They are made by humans who don’t share your values:

    “Do you know what we call opinion in the absence of evidence? We call it prejudice.”
    ― Michael CrichtonState of Fear

    You don’t need to justify yourself for the love that you feel in your heart. You should not apologize for you emotions. Its your life, means your rulings.

    There are a lot of people which plan their entire life in advance and think that they will be happy forever.  Their goals as a couple might be the same and their values might be similar too. Nontheless they finally need to quit their relationship because its boring or does not fulfill them anymore.

    As a wedding visionary and a relationship expert I admit there is no guarantee about the success as a couple, neither if its a national relationship nor a binational one. There are some living together until forever and others which get seperated after a few time-period.

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    Stop apologizing yourself to others. You derserve the life you were meant to be. Live you dreams and enjoy the love which is so deep that nobody can influence it nor control it. Binational love is an intellectual challenge, because you will always try to be smarter then others and to stay on target belonging your lovetape. 

    I always tell my clients:“ If you invest in a relationship and you don’t do ist selfishly you will be rewarded after a while. True love is not just an emotion, it’s a choice!“

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    If you want to put your relationship on a higher level, you should think about getting married. As a wedding planner I organize civil marriages in denmark, especially for binational couples. Feel free to contact me via Email: agentur.herzensfreude@yahoo.de

     

    11 ways to show your love without being on her mercy!

    There are a lot of variants of showing your love towards the person you really feel connected with. Unfortunaly some men are not able to show their feelings in a directly way. Saying „I love you“ is not everyone’s favorite „to do“.

    Some men grew up with a father who did not show his love directly to their mother. Others feel weak and at liberty if they tell a woman whats going on deep in their heart. I can tell you how you can show your love without given up yourself anyway.. Weiterlesen „11 ways to show your love without being on her mercy!“

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